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Question

I have a 3 year old domestic short-hair cat, we'll call him "s". I got him as a present from my fiance when he was just a baby kitten (10 weeks old.)

He used to pee on everything, and I worked with him to stop doing it (gave him his own room with litter box and positive reenforcement when he uses the litter box)

I have spent the last three years trying to love & nurture him to the best of my ability. I attempt to play with/pet him every day and he HATES all people. me, my fiance, anyone who has ever come to our house. Sometimes he just howls really loudly during the day at night etc.

I have another cat that I got three months previous at the same age and he has grown into the best cat ever, friendly and goes to the bathroom, loves to come say hi when either of us get home from work, etc, and we have treated them exactly the same. They are best friends which makes it really hard to consider anything.

I was separating the laundry today and put the duvet cover on the ground for a minute before putting it in the washer and s walked over to it and peed all over it. He has been neutered since he was just old enough to get neutered, so it doesn't make sense that he would be spraying. I had just cleaned both litter boxes this morning.

I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I can't take him peeing on stuff anymore and the howling & hating all people etc. Please suggestions.

Answer 1

there was an episode of that british program this week on animal planet where this lady (and now I just cannot remember the program or the ladies name) comes to your house to evaluate the animal in its surroundings and gives help// this dog (a small type) showed the same kind of behaviour as your cat and she helped changing its behaviour, maybe your can get some pointers from this program

Answer 2

Hi

Try 'cat attract' cat litter, Expensive but works really well.

Socialization will be a bit rougher..With a very shy cat,I use to take her in my arms and bring her topeople. I would hold her while they pet her. She still is shy but will walk out with people around instead of hiding all the time, Maybe that may help socialize him

Answer 3

Time to find him a new family.  He doesn't like it there and never will.

Answer 4

What you described could be the result of various medical problems.  The first thing you want to do is take the cat to a veterinarian.  Tell the vet about all of S's problems (urinating outside of the litter box, howling at night, etc.), and let the vet do whatever tests are necessary.   The problem might be treatable.  If not, the vet might have other suggestions.

Answer 5

I love cats so much and hate to say it, but you may just not be able to keep him. There are people who will take cats who can't be placed elsewhere-- who will take cats as "barn cats"--they pretty much have freedom in their own little environment to pee where they want and run about and nobody cares. In some places they expect these cats to be entirely self-sufficient (ie, no food except what they catch, which would not be appropriate for a prevoiusly home-bound cat), but check around, and someone can find an appropriate home for this poor misunderstood guy (I'm not saying that I DO understand him, I'm just saying the poor guy is a bad choice for an indoor pet). If he's been entirely indoors, maybe a compromise can be letting him be indoor/outdoor and that would take care of a lot of his aggression/anxiety, etc. Some cats are just naturally A LOT more affectionate and social, while some--including my beloved girl of three years--are pretty aloof--I  know she thinks she belongs here bc she comes home every day from the vast woods and neighbors where she could easily go home to anywhere else, but she comes here and says a quick hello, but then she keeps her space and does her own thing. Sometimes she sits on my lap and I wonder if she's ill (haha)....cats are sooo different. I wonder if trying opening the door for this little man to be in and out wouldn't solve it (though that puts him at other risks, but---at what cost, you want him to be happy, no?) good luck!!

Answer 6

i would get him checked by a vet and if he's healthy then I would think about finding him a farm to live on-he doesn't sound as if he likes people very much and would probably be happier as a barn/farm cat