I need help with my sister!!!!!!!PLEASE HELP!TIME SENSATIVE?

Question

My sister is 14 and 1/2,and the other night she was raped! We are really close,so she told me and no one else. I don't know what to do,she is so sad,and what if she has an STD? Or if she is pregnant? She looks up to me(even though im younger,she thinks im more mature.) My aunt is a gynecologist,but if she went to her,thenshe may tell my parents,and we dont have any money at all(my parents do,but not us.) Shes looking to me for emotional help,and advice and I dont know what to do! Help please!

Answer 1

You need to do the mature thing, and look after your sister's well-being.  You are not ethically required to keep a secret if it causes harm to someone (allowing your sister to have an untreated pregnancy or STD counts as harm) or breaks the law (you know a crime was committed but didn't say anything).  So it would be okay to reveal your sister's secret in order to help her.

But it would be best if your sister did it herself.  Tell her you are concerned that she might be pregnant or have an STD, and that ignoring it won't make it go away or help her emotionally heal.  Encourage her to tell your parents, or at least your aunt, what happened.  It is not her fault, and your parents will be far more concerned about her well-being than anything else.  

Your aunt would probably be willing to examine your sister for free, but depending on state law she might be legally required to tell your parents what happened.  It's up to your sister if she would feel more comfortable having her aunt examine her, or having a stranger do it.

Your sister needs a lot of comfort and support right now.  Trust the adults who love you.

Answer 2

just tell your parents, and report the raping to the local police. NOW!

Answer 3

This is your parents worst nightmare, they will not be mad at either of you, they will be furious at the man that did this! You need to go to the cops. Think of it as stopping him for doing this to someone else.

You sister needs to go to the DR. I'm sure she has already showered and everything, but the sooner she gets in there the more chance the police have at finding evidance to link the man to the crime.

The main reason your parents need to be told is not because of being pregnant which thankfully isn't a given or an STD that can usually be treated (not that those aren't important reasons) but because your sister needs to talk to someone about this. If she doesn't it will eat her up from the inside uut. She needs help. She needs adult help.

Getting her that help can save her from things in the future. I have read many times about victims often becoming victims again. A woman raped is more likely to be raped a second time then someone that never has been. Predators sence this kind of thing in people, a weakness developed from self doubt or something. Because you posted this as Time Sensitive I wont look for a link. Email me and I can try to find it if you like.

Answer 4

well I'm sorry; i truly am, i hate child molesters More than ANYTHING in the entire world! the first thing to do is to tell the police so he can be caught IMMEDIATELY before he does this to anyone else. its a horrible thing that they get away with it so often. just be there for her and tell her that you love her and you're not ashamed of her and that its gunna be okay; you have to tell youre parents ASAP because she needs to be checked for an STD soon and watch out for pregnancy; shes too young for a child. if you need ANYTHING else please fell free to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 5

i am very sorry for your sister but even though she is very emotional you NEED to tell your parents RIGHT NOW!! if there is anything wrong with her it will only get worse with time!

Answer 6

You need to get her to a doctor for all the reasons you just listed.  If she won't go to your aunt, hit up ANY other dr. or ER.  

Honey, I know she looks up to you, but you now know about a crime.  If things get ugly later on, you could get in A LOT of trouble for not reporting the rape of a minor.  Protect both of you. You need to tell your parents or your aunt or the cops.  

Answer 7

that is absolutely horrible and no young lady should ever go threw that if they arent asking for it to boot with.  I would defenitly go to the doctor and get checked, and i would put that a*****e in jail.

Answer 8

you should talk to an adult about this  i mean she COULD be pregnant!

i would go to the doctor ASAP!

good luck and i am sorry to hear that...

it sucks... i know...i've been there.:(

n fact i am 14 and a half too

please help me with mine anyone, :C

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Answer 9

You should immediately take her to see your aunt and follow her advice because this is not a situation that she or you should have to deal with alone.

Not reporting this crime may make it more likely to happen again, and if she was forced, it's a crime.

If she was willing to have s*x with a bf near her own age, usually no more than a difference of 3 years, then it may not be a crime, but either way she needs to go see your aunt doctor because you're not being a good sister by helping her cover this up.

It's important to do it now.

Answer 10

She needs to contact a rape crisis centre.  She can take "the morning after" pill to prevent pregnancy. Your aunt is in the best position to get help from as she will also need  to be tested for STD, and will need blood work incase the rapist was HIV positive.  I'm so sorry that this happened to your sister, and it was very smart of you to post this question, but you have to contact someone today. What's the problem with your parents finding out?. She should also contact the police.

Answer 11

Police. Call the police and report the guy who raped her. Then ASAP go get checked for pregnancy or STD. Your parents won't be mad at her they'll be pissed and the b*****d who raped her. Just tell them. It'll all be fine try not to worry. Well good luck!! Hope your family gets through this. ;]

Answer 12

the best thing to do is contact you aunt and tell her what happened.  then if she wants to tell your parents then ask her to help you guys sit down with your parents and explain the situation.  this is very serious and nothing to just pass by.  trust me when i say that your parents will not be upset and will want to be there for your sister.  this is time for you take and be the big little sister and tell her that you guys have to say something.  tell her your going through it with her and that you love her and don't want anything to happen to her.