I need ideas on how to relax and enjoy life?

Question

I was raised in a neighborhood where all the neighbors were much older and basically I was the only kid except when my step brothers and sister were visiting. I have not seen most of them since I was 3 years old. My mom is passive aggressive so I never knew what to expect and my dad is distant. I had a head injury in 1993 and a knee injury at work in 2002. I have pain much of the time. I used to be trusting of people and was used. I am leery of people now and always on guard. I talked to a counselor and she says I am anxious and need to learn to relax more. I find it hard to relax because I hurt varying degrees each day and barely sleep because of pain and muscle spasms. I feel jittery right now try to hold everything together. I probably over analyze everything now and need advise.

Answer 1

you need a love life. Well I assumed you don't have yet because you never said you do and it was never part of your anxieties. :] but seriously it could help you uplift the pain during your lowest days.

On the other hand if you do have already and still feel this way maybe the "relax" thing should come first "within". Let go of the physical and emotional pains.

Feel good about yourself, make use of your good attributes and either take for granted the bad ones or improve on them.

Try to stop dwelling on the past but rather use the past to make a better future. You can't be paranoid all the time, thinking that people might use you again and again and again. Be kind to people but not passive. Be cool and friendly but do not over react, please! :) Have lots of friends! Just always save something for yourself, don't give too much neither give too little.

Go out with your friends.. Chill or go out of town if you want. Much better if you can join school, social or civic organizations.

Lastly, think that everything's going to be alright. Life is so good!

Answer 2

Breathe.

Take a deep breath, everything is going to be fine. You've made it this far haven't you? That's proof that you are a strong person. Concerning you being wary about new relationships; You've accumulated enough experience to know what to look out for, no need to fear every person you come to meet.

For relaxing; do what you love to do. Watch sports, play video games--whatever it is that you love to do. Do what makes you happy.  Take a deep breath and live in the moment, don't focus on the past or the future.

As for the pain, you should go see a doctor and get a professional opinion on what could be bothering you as well as medication. The emotional pain perhaps see a therapist or a psychologist. They can really work wonders, and perhaps help ease your anxiety.  

Answer 3

you should take a relaxing vacation and spend time with loved ones. go to a local spa or w.e. and get yourself a massage. do yoga to practice your breathing which will make you calmer and appreciate life more. or if worse comes  2 worse, see a physciatrist

:)

Answer 4

u should take up meditating so that u can relax your mind a bit.dont concentrate on the future too much. dont u have anyone to talk to?