I need lots of advice!! please help me!?

Question

my step son is out of control. he's 18 going into 10th grade because he pretty much dosen't care about school and has done very poorly, and pretty much a drain on my hubby and i. i got him a job working with me but he quit after a few weeks because the boss was yelling at him. he didn't like it, so he quit. this was his first job mind you and EVERYONE was telling him that anywhere you go a boss will treat you bad at least once. i know i have to deal with getting criticized at my job but i want my job. anyway, he says at another job it will be better. the problem is that he hasn't even started looking again. now its 2 weeks until school starts and he says he is not going back. he says he wants his GED. my hubby and i said that he has until the first day of school to find a job, if nothing then he HAS to go to school no matter what. if not then he has to move out. because right now all he does is wake up at 1pm. call people on the house phone. get dressed, eat and then go out with friends until his curfew at 12pm then come home, eat, and go to bed. then his day starts all over again. its driving us crazy and no matter what boundaries we set he has his own agenda. what can we do?? should we kick him out?? i think he needs a dose of reality. please help!!

Answer 1

He is only doing what he is allowed to get away with. He knows that he can do what he wants, and Dear old dad will let him get by.  Set a time that he gets a job. It doesn't even matter about going to school, he needs a job. He is milking the system you have set up for him. Set up some new rules. If he was in a half way house, or homeless shelter he would have to be out the door at least by 7 or 8 in the morning looking for work. Let him know that from now on, rent will be due, and if he eats there, he will pay for the food, I don't think the grocery store lets you load up a cart for free.

Answer 2

Kick Him Out, You all have given him the chance that he needed and still he kicked you in your teeth.  

Answer 3

Go to counceling.  

Answer 4

i would tell him straight tell how his behavior makes you feel and if he still continues i would lock the door as soon as it hits his curfew. but on the other hand if u come down on him to hard he will do anything to annoy you so i would help him to find one more job then if the same thing happens again then i would kick him out.

Answer 5

You're totally right. If he says he's not going to school and isn't working or compensating for what he uses in your house then yes you should kick him out. It seems cruel but you're right, the kid needs a dose of reality because life is not that easy. But at least say when you're going to kick him out if you do decide to do that.