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I need relationship advice from a Christian stand point.?

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My future mother-in-law absolutely hates me. Like way more so than most. She always said she wanted me to marry my fiance until the last 4 months. She talks behind my back and is relatively mean to my face. I always loved her until this happened. My fiance and I are going to confront her tonight. I need wise counsel.

The only thing I have ever done, is on occasion we have gotten in a bad fight and I have called my fiance a name. Apparently she has seen those texts. I have apoligized over that and dont do it anymore. I am very upset.

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  1. You say she "talks behind my back"..to whom? Has she actually been hateful to you personally? Or are others trying to stir something up?

    Never put anything in writing, including text messaging, that you don't want seen! BUT..how in the world did she see it.

    Please don't say your boyfriend showed his mom? If he did then that is a big warning sign about your relationship.

    You say you are going to "confront" her tonight? Well, the word "confront" makes it sound like it will be unpleasant. If you go to talk to her with an attitude don't expect things to go well.

    I think if you had a good relationship with her originally, which I would take to mean you spoke often and were comfortable talking to her, then I'd talk to her one on one. Why can't you call her and say something like " I feel like things aren't good between us and want to know if something is bothering you".

    You may find out she has another problem going on that has nothing to do with you but makes it appear she is unhappy with you, when in fact she is unhappy about something else.

    Don't go over there if you are feeling "upset", big mistake, you will likely end up in a worse situation.

    Good luck!


  2. I think you shoudl confront her because otherwise this could only get worse. Talk to your fiance and decide what you are going to say. Tell her in a way that doesn't make her defensive. Just say you want to clear the air and that you're worried that she doesn't trust you or respect you anymore. Tell her that yes you and your fiance have had fights but every couple does and that doesn't change the love you have for him.

  3. Yeah I have had that exact problem with my g/f's mom. She used to be sooooo nice to me and then started trashing me behind my back to anyone and everyone. We have not confronted her. I just keep my mouth shut when she is around to try to keep the peace. That's about all I can do. If we were to confront her she would flip out and it would get very ugly. So we just let it be.

    Although she recently (the past 2 or 3 weeks) seems to be slowly changing and not trying to destroy me. lol.

    Good luck if you actually confront yours though!

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