I need serious help.... with my confidence...?

Question

Ok, whenever i'm around guys i freeze up and can't seem to find the right thing to say. I don't know what they like talking about... I just can't seem to get it right. Whever I try to be funny or something no one really laughs. I'm not a shy person... just around guys I kind of clam up. PLEASE HELP. Thank you so much.

Answer 1

I don't know how old you are, but I was totally like that until college and since I lived in the dorms, there were always guys around and now guys are my best friends.  It just takes life experience to learn to relax enough to be yourself.  

Answer 2

perhaps could you say ur just not hanging around guys who are compatible with u? if not then I would agree that it is a confidence issue. i think you should feel more easy going when u are talking to whoever. mayb u feel like u might say the wrong things or like they might make fun of wat u say, etc. Know that most guys probably aren't gunna be around for the rest of your life, they will move on with something else and so will you. you find the right friends, guys or girls, by just being yourself. don't worry about the fact that they are guys, just talk, if u dnt get along then move on

Answer 3

Well, maybe let them take the lead...they just may start the conversation for you about something they would like to talk about. If you want to initiate the conversation, music is a great topic to talk about. Everyone loves music. Ask them what kinds of music they like or what new bands that they like listening  to...or any great concerts that they have gone to.....Or pay them a compliment. Guys love to get them as much as we do. Ask them where they got that really awesome watch that they are wearing, etc. You will soon get the hang of it, you have a great start since you aren't shy....It does get easier with a little time.....other things you could talk about are movies  cars,  school, classes, college (sorry I don't know your age) . You will build your confidence the more you talk with them ...You will be just fine, wait and see.......Pretend that you are confident and soon you will be!!!

Answer 4

I think that if you would google Desiderata and read it it might help you a lot. Try to focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. With best wishes. UK