I need social advice...like the cliques at school....will anyone help?!?!?!

Question

aallright.....iv always told others that idc if im popular or not...u know.....hu govs a d**n? but ike at the sae time, i m sick of being iked on.....its like, i just wana tell those mean "popular" kids to shut the h**l up and go away, but i cant.......im kinda a confused person...im always in alll the honors classes....sum call me a bully wich i cant see myself as....and sum say that im just a loner...wannabe loner.....i dont get it.....im a bit chubby....and im not the pretiest girl on the block either.....i just hate the social ladder thing or whatev its caled.....i wanna be sum1 but i wanna maintane my grades and all at the same time......u know? last year i really messed up cuz of all the drama c**p.....i just wanna be sum1......sum1 with sum kinda respect......idk.....its been building up in me since i was like in 3rd grade and i wana do something now!!!! i can like do somthing b4 the school year starts.....

i dont just want people to tell me dont worry u are hu u r.....iv herd enuf of that......HELP!!!!!!!

its just so bad to the point where im angry....im an angry ugly tomboy hus fat and has no respect in my family or at school!!!! i go to one of those private schools so ya......and idk....my parents luv me but like my bro and cuz's...im the oldest so ya.....idk......i wanna be sum1!!!!!

Answer 1

well ive been in both positions; th popular girl && th girl noone likes;th first thing you should do is take some time && figure out just who you are;everyone is a little confused && unsure of thereselves so youre not alone in that;i think you should stick to your honors classes;&& not worry about them;do things to take your mind off it;when you think about all the stuff thats going on;after awhile you realize just how small && unimportant it all is;school goes by sooo fast && vefore you know it you wont see those people again...it may get hard but you have to learn to motivate yourslef && not worry about them;not everyone will like you && you wont like everyone;but if you just foces on yourself everything will be ok;

* i dont know if youre religious or not but heres a quote; [ god wont put you through anything you cant handle ] && if your not religious [ everything has a purpose;it all happens for a reason ]

Answer 2

Hey girl if we pay attention to what everyone things of us in life, we never get a chance to really figure out who we are for ourselves. You just need to learn to love yourself. And yah its hard in this messed up society. Believe me, there is so much more than peoples f#cked up opinions. <3

Answer 3

I can`t really read what you have writtin.!

Answer 4

IDont know what to tell ya. but you are someone. god has a plan for you. Don't worry about what people say about you. Just make sure that you show love to everyone around you...even the mean ones...and you will rise above them. If you talk back to them or whatever then it will just trigger them to do it even more. I've learned that its so much better to be nice to them no matter what. i know its hard n it might sound stupid. but they will then have nothing bad to say about you. and if they do talk c**p about you..then that just means that they are insecure about themselves and are trying to make themselves feel better. Its okay to try to overcome your insecurities or whatever....but accept who you are because you cant just change who you are. but yeah good luck :)

Answer 5

I was going to answer your question. I really was. Is it honestly so hard to spell "who" and "gives"? I can almost start to understand the no child left behind program now.  

Answer 6

im kinda like a "loner" i have friends but not alot and certainly not the most popular but i dont care, i used to not anymore its not worth it life is so short it would be a waste to be angry or sad all the time be yourself dont change for anyone cuz in the end you'll be the one upset dont ever let anyone make you feel like you dont deserve what u want or who you want to become try getting a make over like a new hair style and different clothes dont dumb yourself down so you could fit in w/ a group being smart is powerful and it will take you places remember hs is only 4 years most of those people are at their best which is sad just live your life to be happy things will all work out in time i know it sounds lame but im happy not being the most popular girl in school i love who i am if ppl cant except that thats their loss

Answer 7

yeah that's really tough. I totally sympathize with you're situation. I'm in all honors classes, and more than once i've been called intense and bossy.

but eventually i stopped trying to fit in, with the popular crowd and into those tiny little jeans that haunted me in the corner of my dresser. and ironically, that's what it took for people to stop looking at me as a wannabe or a nobody. i'm still not popular, but i have good friends and i'm happy. and i'm not as unpopular as i used to be.

so even if you'd heard it a million times. relax. be yourself. have confidence. and you'll get what you want.

Answer 8

i say try not to let it bother you

i had this same problem for years when i was younger. i always felt alone and didnt feel like anyone (including the people who i thought were my friends) respected me but later on in highschool i made better friends and learned to enjoy myself inside of let what other poeple did bother me. i still dont like those poeple but it help to try and block them out or if you can, look for theyre good points and see them in a new light. who knows? these poeple may feel the same way as you do theyre just not saying anything.

ps u might wanna write better cuz its a little hard to understand

Answer 9

You write like that, and you're in honors classes.  I find that hard to believe.

Answer 10

d**n sounds like a pretty harsh time right now.  Here's the scoop the "cliques" at school they most of the time end up splitting due to democracy, you cannot go on judging people due to what ever difference like they do.  Do tell them to shut their pie holes, but if only they deserve it, don't be afraid to speak the truth but when it needs to be heard, and depending on what grade you are in they (the beautiful ones) that poke fun wait and see what they look like at your ten year reunion lol it is usually funny what (the beautiful ones) they turn into eventually.  They usually squirt out a couple of kids and wow it never stretches back quite the same.  Hang in there I was the loner kid, and I hung with pretty much everyone whom excepted me, never had a clique that I hung with, and I turned out pretty ok.  Don't hide behind some pretend mask just to fit in, and speak with your guidance counselor about your feelings and anger, holding it in will only turn it into hate, I held it in for 30 years and one day I awoke and felt like I was going literally CRAZY, it is not a good feeling.  Other than that find people that accept you for you and cherish those individuals being different is what makes us, us.  Cheers and have a gr8 weekend.

Answer 11

i am guessing you are making this up or whatever.

by the way if you are in honours classes, did you not learn how to S-P-E-L-L

Answer 12

YOU ARE SOMEONE YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON INSIDE AND outside. school sucks i know its very hard to fit in, but tell those mean kids " I AM SOMEBODY AND YOUR NOBODY I CANT HEAR YOU SO LEAVE ME ALONE BEFORE THEY GO LOOKING FOR YOUR HEAD" or something like that lol :] everyone loves you. talk to your family and friends they will help too. i am sure you are pretty ( if ur a tomboy then put on makeup and dress in pink and girly if you want to change ) but i dont think u need to change who you are! you are a very good person so keep your head up high, dont worry and be happy :] i hope i helped you so can you please help me http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...

Answer 13

I wish I could help you out a little more but I can't understand what you wrote.... maybe you could try rewriting it and proofreading?  I'd really like to help you understand what's wrong and help you feel better about yourself!!!! :-)  Sorry you're feeling down