I need some advice. My husband and I have recently separated. ?

Question

This is not our first time. He is an addict. He has been gone for about 3 weeks this time. He and I do not have kids together. So about a week ago he text me around 11:30 at night and claimed he wanted to check on the "kids". I answered b/c I was so angry and hurt b/c when he left I found out a few things. Just lies and stuff that he had told. So in a way I wanted to confront him about it. After I answered him I wish that i didn't. I wanted to ignore him. So last night when he text me and asked if I was ok I chose not to answer. When I didn't answer he cursed me out and said he would never text me again. I still didn't answer any of his texts. Why do you think he keeps texting me so late at night? And what does he really want?

Answer 1

I hear crack can keep you up at night.  Maybe that's why he's texting so late.

Answer 2

End it with him forever.  

Answer 3

He keeps texting you because you're his wife and he probably is pissed that you kicked him out.  When he gets high on his drugs, he's going to harass you and such.  

Normally I don't condone divorce, but if he's not willing to kick his drug habit, I think you should cut ties with him immediately and move on with your life.  

Good luck.

Answer 4

End your relationship for good, since it is not getting anywhere and you too aren't getting long. He is probably testing you to comfort and make you feel like everything is OK because he still wants to have a relationship with you because no one else is interested or wants to deal with an addict like him. He is just brainwashing you with those texts to make you think that cares when he actually doesn't so don't take on with it just leave it as it is and forget about him. You've lost your love,respect, and faith for him which is important in a relationship and since you to don't have any of that anymore than I say you should make it history.

OR...

Another reason could be is the drugs and alcohol that is getting to his mind to make him text all that bullshit, so that is why your always getting those late night texts. He could be at a stage of life where he is depressed and doesn't know what to do, that is probably why he is an addict and can't stop. I say you should talk things out with him and see what is going on and understand and comfort him to make him feel more secure because if he sees that you are just rejecting him and not caring anymore he will continue and take advantage of you which will make him much more of an addict since he is used to you comforting him and being by his side. Once you get all this information, you could figure things out from there, like take him through conselling and theraphy. Just my last advice for you is to not get involved too much because dealing with addicts can put you into dangerous situations.

Answer 5

He is stoned out of his head, might not even realize he is doing it.  Continue to not answer him, then get a new email address and a restraining order, drug addicts are dangerous.  If they don't hurt you the people they owe money to can.  if they get busted you can be implicated.  If they shoot the stuff they could have aids and spread it around either not knowing or because they do not care about what happens.

  

Answer 6

He is texting you because he is trying to control you. Do not give in, and do not feel sorry for him.  I think you choose the correct path by not texting him back.  He will continue to text you eventually.  Just ignore him,  

Answer 7

He's probably getting high and texting you in the middle of the night because he's... well, he's high.  Duh.

Answer 8

He's confused and lonely.  He needs help and support.  he's use to getting it from you.  Try and direct him to counseling or any therapy.  Good luck.