I need some advice about how to deal with my mother-in-law!?

Question

My mother-in-law is more like a monster-in-law. She tries to get things going all of the time between her daughter in-laws. I just found out last night she was running her mouth to my brother-in-laws girlfriend. I'm not surprised as anytime we are together she is talking about my other sister-in-laws. My husband gets mad when I don't want to go over to their house. How do I address this situation? Do I ignore it or confront her?

Answer 1

I would confront her in the nicest possible way.  My current  mother in law is wonderful but I was in a previous relationship with a guy whose mom was always stirring the pot.  I finally got to the point where I had had enough.  At a family gathering, she started her usual antics so I asked to speak with her in private.  I just let her know in a very nice but stern way that I knew what she was doing and that I didn't appreciate her talking about me.  After that she was sweet as pie, well until I broke up with her son... Good Luck!

Answer 2

You ignore it.  Why would you confront her?  Who do you think you are that you think you can confront her?  She's the mom, you're just married to her son.  In her house, she can do what she wants.  In your house, you do what you want.

Answer 3

tell your husband that u need him to tell his mom to stop talking stuff about u

Answer 4

Good Luck hun, I've been fighting this battle for 6 years.  My mother in law has told the rest of  her family that I'm going to h**l and I'm putting my husbands soul in danger. Makes for some uncomfortable holidays.  Unfortunately, I am the lone wolf in my story and can't confront her.  (She's a martyr you know, and if you husband doesn't make it clear to her to lay off, she never will.)  Confrontation in these situations, makes things worse.  You know, the best thing for your sanity, would be to go have lunch with the other sister-in-laws and casually mention your difficulties, you may have some strong allies and not even know it. You need to have a heart to heart with your hubby too, he should see your side, if he's not to much of a momma's boy...... Best of Luck to you!

Answer 5

all of you all of the daughter in laws should confront her all together and if you dont want to go over there then your husband shouldnt be pissed because he has a ***** for a mom who loves to cause trouble

Answer 6

I say that you should get together at your mother in laws house or maybe yours and confront her about it. Maybe she is like thisbecausee she need attention or is just a *****!

I would confront her because i think being honest with each other is good. If you don't  next thing you know she will turn everyonee against each other even you and your husband.

Just think about, and do thing right! Talk to your husband and to your sister in laws and brother in laws before going for it. Try to get in the same level as all of them and ask themwhatt they think.

I think your mother in law is maybe crying for attention. Maybe she is lonely, and need someone to talk to or something. I wouldn't really know because idon't know her but follow your heart!

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Don't confront her as I doubt that will get you anywhere but I would recommend speaking to the daugher-in-laws to clear up anything they might've heard and avoid any misunderstandings in the future.

I also think you should speak to your husband and let him know how much it hurts you, see if he can have a word with his mother about her badmouthing you. Make sure you approach the subject gently because at the end of the day that's still his mother. If all else fails, just ignore her. No need to stoop to her level.  

Answer 8

i would not play into it at all. This just keeps it going. What I have done is just completely change the subject when someone starts to talk about someone else. And if something is said about me I ignore it. I also do my best to keep my life private. Not give details about things this opens the door for opinions.  

Answer 9

Dont ignore it or confront her. Talk to your husband. Explain how you feel. unfortunately men find it difficult to hear their mothers are pains in the necks but the only thing you can do is explain it and hope he understands, He might have a word with her for you..if not then if it gets too much then talk to her, but in a nice ish way

Answer 10

I would just ignore it and if for some reason she takes a breath and realizes that you aren't paying attention simply tell her that you simply just don't care.

Trade ya - you could have my MIL