I need some advice about s*x. :/?

Question

This is a bit awkward really.

But I'm really scared about it.

My boyfriend and I, nearly had s*x.

But as he 'went into' me, it really hurt.

It was my first time, but not his.

I told him we should just leave it because it hurt.

But is it normal for it to ?

Or should I be worried ?

Does it get easier and hurt less ?

Help please :(

x

Answer 1

The pain is caused by two things: certainly the intorduction of his p***s int o you, and the muscles are not ready for this.

the tearing of you hymen. There may be pain the next two times he tries this, but he has to be gentle. if he has all the subtlty of a train wreck, this will not only turn you away from s*x but severely damage your current relationship

Answer 2

Maybe if you don't know the answer to your question you should visit Planned Parenthood first. You have the right to all the information before you become active, not just what your boyfriend tells you. Planned Parenthood will see you without parents being present.  

Answer 3

Foreplay.

Answer 4

Love hurts, love bleeds.......

There is an art to deflowering a virgin, and sadly only 3 people in the world know it... Sounds like he is either not good at stimulation, or possibly too big for the job at hand... But even if he was huge, if done correctly, it still involves pain, yes, but it is more of a bearable sensual pain... over quickly and succeeded by more of the happy pleasure... If these experiences dont feel right to you, try another partner... For him to be 'experienced' he sounds like a wiener. but if he is to be the one, try a good quality lubricant, i suggest KY Jelly!

Have fun, that is however what it is all about! but you should enjoy it! not be afraid, which is why i say he is not getting the job done even half way properly...

Answer 5

Don't worry, it is perfectly normal for it to hurt first time for a woman but you have to do it if you don't want pain in future sexual activity.

No pain, no gain

Answer 6

Practice on your own with toys to help make for a better fit when you are with him. You can spend more time and ease a toy in slower than he will be patient for.  

Answer 7

just dont do it until ur married this is a sign of y u should not do it!

Answer 8

Yes it will hurt the first few times you do it. Tell him to start with his fingers to get you prepared. You may also bleed a little. But it is all normal its all part of losing your virginity. Just start slow until the pain goes down.

But yes it is normal dont worry theres nothing wrong.

Answer 9

It hurts REALLY bad.

But if you get married before you have s*x,  theres no pain at all.

Answer 10

its normal when first time u do... no need to worry..

Answer 11

It does hurt the first time because the hymen which is the piece of skin at the entrance of the v****a tears a little.

It may hurt (but less) the next few times but eventually it won't (it may even become enjoyable!!)

My boyfriend still hurts me sometimes, the only tips I have as I am no expert is

1) use plenty of lube, durex is a brilliant one but if you are too embarrassed to buy it vaseline works too and is quite safe. Put plenty on and it will help ease the p***s inside without feeling sore.

2) use positions that dont go too deep for example the missionary (him on top). You on top, so you can control the depth at which he enters you and if its painful you can go slower. Spoons (you lay on your side and he lays behind you) is also nice because it feels more gentle and loving and you get to have a bit of a cuddle.

3) Only try again when you are ready. I know it can hurt more when you are worried as you tense up meaning your v****a tenses up and it hurts more. So relax and try to have a laugh about it.

I know it can be awkward and somrtimes embarrassing but it will get better. Make sure you are ready for it, if he is experienced dont let him pressure you into it. I wish I could take my first time back!!!

Good Luck x

Answer 12

hunny its normal let him put it all the way in next time.... it will hurt for a few days..... and the next few times you have s*x it will hurt but then it will feel better. just do lots of foreplay ex.oral s*x, fingerings

Answer 13

That is very normal.  That muscle has never been stretched out that way before.  Stress and anxiety also has a lot to do with the pain.  The more nervous you are, the more your muscles contract.  It will get easier and hurt less.  It will actually get to feel really good.  Just try to relax and not be as nervous.  Tell him that you are a little nervous and to be gently, please.  If he doesn't listen to you, then you don't need to be having s*x with him any ways.  Most guys will listen to what you want when it comes to s*x if they are gentlemen.  Also, make sure to try some lube.  Since you are nervous, your body is probably not creating enough natural lubrication, which will make it hurt even worse.

Good Luck!

Answer 14

yes it hurts less over time its nothing to worry about but do practice safe s*x use a condom everytime

Answer 15

since its your first time it does hurt but once you get it in and you have him go the pace you feel comfortable with it usually calms down and not hurt as much but yes the first time will hurt

Answer 16

The first time isn't s*x; it's just penetration for the sake of ending virginity. It hurts a little, but like working out at the gym, the better shape you get in the better it feels and more good it does you!

Answer 17

Yeah, It's normal.

No, you shouldn't. It's perfectly normal.

Yeah, it should. So don't worry.

Answer 18

when you loose your vaginity it does hurt hun.. and you will likely have some light bleeding after too, i know i did...

but the more you do it the better it becomes and it doesnt hurt anymore!!

good luck x

Answer 19

don`t worry is the first time . after two or three times you will be ok. be careful if his p.... is very big dont let him hurt u .