I need some advice on a personal issue that I am having...

Question

Please help: I am in a pretty serious relationship and from time to time, I get selfish. Like I don't think about anybody but myself. I recently put my boyfriend in a very uncomfortable position because of it. Usually the time and energy I waste working myself up over these issues that I become selfish about is completely wasted because the outcome of my emotions is basically me (with the help of my upset and angry boyfriend) figuring out that all in all, I'm not really thinking about anybody but myself.

My issue is that I don't know how to make it stop.. It seems easy but I just get jealous easily and it has become something that I'm honestly having trouble controlling. I really want to change and I don't know anybody to talk to about this. I'm really upset about it. Someone please give me some advice. I'm desperate. My relationship pretty much depends on it.

Answer 1

Are you an only child?  Are you used to getting your way?  You recognized that you have a problem because you stated this.  You may need professional help, i.e., a counselor or therapist, to help you change your ways.  Only you can make it stop.  

Answer 2

Off hand, I'd say you're a controlling, insecure woman who is in definite need of help.

I don't need the points either> so just listen to those who say you're not the problem & give it to them.  But the truth is, you're very much the problem.  

If you're truly desperate, & not just wanting a magic pill to cure your emotional issues, you first have to get some help.  These things seldom resolve themselves on their own.