I need some advice please??

Question

OK first off What i am going to tell you I know is and was wrong, so please no bashing me. Well I got pregnant with my long term boyfriend. We were both SOOO excited. I was 9 weeks and had a miscarriage... I didn't tell him. I was so devistated and couldn't bare to see or know that him, or anyone could feel the same way. So at the time I just told myself I won't tell him and try and get pregnant again..WOW stupid i know, but I am pregnant again. SO he thinks I'm almost 41/2 months and I am only 3 weeks. I do know for sure cause I went to the doc. I have got myself into somthing terriable & this is nothing like me, I just got scared & was so devestated. NOw i believe if i tell him he will leave me (which i don't blame him)but is there anything i can tell him or do or say to make this better ???

Answer 1

he is goin 2 find out, does he have a yahoo address, dont worry sisterm your not da only 1 with pregnancy problems, look at celebs- hanna is tryin 2 concieve wit ti, Ashley Tisdale is pregnant wit bloodraws an jamie foxx`s child an she has aidsan herpees. but its good 2 b a rapper an single, like neyo

Answer 2

He's going to find out one way or the other. Eventually, your due date from the last pregnancy is going to come and go without you having the baby. Honesty is the best policy. I'm sure he won't leave you because he knows you're carrying his child. I'm sure if you explain that you were scared and devastated by the loss of your first child, he will understand. Good luck and congrats on your baby. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

assuming it was your first pregnancy, its very understandable that you'll feel really devastated after u miscarried.... and what caused the "late notice" to ur boyfriend is the emotional turmoil you're going through.... any person who've been depressed need time to heal, need time to open up, and if your partner is mature enough. he will understand this. emphasize to him that you didn't lie, u just needed time to accept the reality that you lost your baby and that you needed to confirm with ur doctor first before telling him because you know that this will pain him just as much.

Answer 4

There is no way around it, you'll have to tell him. He won't beleive you're four months overdue hun. Just tell him how you felt, why you did it, and express your regret. I had one with my first but he was there when the doctor told us what happened so I didn't have to do that. Best of luck *hugs*.

Answer 5

he will not leave u .................he will probably feel so bad that u thought u couldn't come to him when u miscarried. b honest ............that is the sign of a mature relationship.

Answer 6

Honesty is key. If you tell him just like you wrote here what you did and why, he'll understand.

Answer 7

There really isnt anything you can do except come clean. Tell him you are sorry, and explain that you didnt know how to tell him. Make sure you say that you wanted to start this childs life with no lies and have a fresh start. If he leaves you, be gracious about it, who knows... when he calms down, he might come back. Dont use your unborn child as a barganing tool because that is a bad habit to get into; putting your child in the middle of adult problems that is. The longer you put off talking to him and telling the truth, the harder it'll be to come clean and the angrier he will be because of how many months it will/has been. Tell him ASAP.

Answer 8

Well, I don't know him so I couldn't tell you what his reaction would be. You should have told him in the first place but as that time has passed you need to tell him now what happened. Let him know that you were depressed and didn't know how to day anything about it. Just tell him the truth and tell him from your heart. :-)

Answer 9

The only thing you can do is come clean. Explain to him that you're not sure why you told the first lie, but that you want to be honest from now on. And then prove to him that he can trust you by being honest and open about everything.

You also might want to talk to someone, a counselor if you can, about why you would lie about such a thing. If you can't talk to this man but you're having a child with him, you are in for a rough road. Work it out now while you still can.