I need some encouragement. Any words of wisdom?

Question

This is about my father, he has been in the hospital for almost 3 weeks... I am taking it pretty hard, cause this is my dad.. I know he has not been perfect throughout his life, but I wish I was stronger.. He will have his leg removed, so he has been debating on whether or not he should have it removed. He has gangrene and the only option is to cut it off... I don't want to hear any sad things.. I want strong words that help me, because I have 2 sons and a husband.. I am 30 years old and I already have anxiety attacks.. I know it could be worse... and I know God only gives us so much that we can take... but, like I said.. my dad has suffered a lot through his life... he had a terrible terrible childhood. When he was an adolescent he left his home and now is in the hospital.. I know these things happen.. but, how can I help myself to be strong for him and for myself.. please. any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.. thanks

Answer 1

First off, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know how hard it is to see a parent sick. You said your father had a hard childhood, look at it as preparation for what he's going through now. He is stronger because of what he went through and he is going to get through this as are you. The best thing you can do is be strong for him. Pray to God to give you strength. Being strong doesn't mean you aren't sad, you are allowed to have those moments where you think you just can't take anymore but being strong means you know you will get through it. Be a rock for your father and be encouraging for him as well. Every situation has a silver lining, even though you may not think so. Some people are not as lucky to still have their fathers (myself included), remind yourself of this everyday and try to keep your father in good spirits. Laughter is the best medicine, you may not feel you have anything to laugh about but it's better to try to keep him in a good mood than to have everyone be somber. Best of luck to you and your dad and God Bless.  

Answer 2

The best thing you can do is not treat him any differently then you did before this happen. You are strong, you took the first steps and wrote about what you are feeling and going through. God is with you and your family in this time of need. Go with faith that everything is going to be alright. tomorrow is another day. You will be in my prayers.

Praying helps!

Be blessed!

Answer 3

Actions will always be louder then words, the strongest thing you can do is be there for him, there is nothing more nobel or rightous then being there in the hour of need. It probably wont be easy but just you being there for him will probably be better for him then anything else.

Answer 4

Be strong and keep praying. If u put ur heart in it, you'll feel how God really loves you. Trust Him that He has better plan for you.

Remember that God promised us that those who're suffering on earth will have his reward later? Don't let all the worldly things and problems make us lose our hearts and minds.

I do feel upset but whenever i pray, i feel so calm and strengthen in Him.

I'll pray for u. be strong and let your father knows that all of u and especially God, really love him no matter what.

Answer 5

Trust in the Lord. He gives us hope and strength to face the challenges we meet. Thank the Lord that you have your father in your life and that he has you in his. Just give him your love and support and let him know that you are there for him always and that you are praying for him. Ask the Lord to give you strength,believe and he will. God be with your father and you.

Answer 6

Be brave. Be brave for him because he'll need you not only emotionally but also perhaps as a physical crutch.  This is minor compared to what could potentially be the problem.  It's his leg, not his life. Technology has advanced so far so that prosthetics are of the highest quality.  Even then, what does that take away from him? Minor amounts of certain types of movement? He's still got you. He's still got a family that loves him and cares about him.

This is the time to show your father how much you are willing to do for him.  Not necessarily a test of love, but an opportunity.  Times like these can only help both of you grow stronger, as people and as father and daughter.

Answer 7

God will help you.Think of those who do not have any medical facility to treat their relatives due to lack of mony. I have lost my mother in Cancer as I did not have more money to cure her. So think of that person who is not capable of treating his parrants and helplss.Please trust in God ,surely he will help you.If God can change my leg for your father's leg I can only prey God to accept my pray and save your father's health.