I need some friend advice. dont answer if you are going to be mean :/ ?

Question

ok so i just need some guidance. im really lost right now. this is the whole story: i have this friend, chelsea. we are best best best friends. we have always been there for each other. we are alot closer than most friends ever get. basically our friendship is perfect. but this summer has sucked. chelsea has changed alot, she drinks, she has become quite a s**t, and basicaly gets in trouble al the time. she made these changes all in like two weeks. she didnt pick the best group of friends.. so for a couple weeks we barely hung out because she was always "busy". after a while i asked her wat was up and she said she was avoiding me becuz she was scared i wouldnt like her becuz she is diff. we made up bla bla bla. but for the next few weeks she was still always busy. then she tried out for cheering. which she made. and so she said she couldnt hang out because of practices. but im not dumb... she could hang out with EVERYONE but me. it was obvious we were drifting apart. and thts all i thought, tht we grew apart. by this time we hadnt hung out for two and a half months. then a few weeks ago i sent her an email wit everything i just had to get out tht had happened to me this summer and i would normally tell her but had no one to tell it to. she read it and emailed me back saying tht she had been intentionally ditching me because she had liked her new life with her new friends better because she felt more dangerous and fun. like a new person. but tht she wanted me back and she was sorry and tht kinda stufff. so i am just freakingggg pissed. i mean im so confused. she has put me through this roller coaster all summer . and come to find out she intentionally ditched me. i trusted her with everything and she completely betratyed me. i dont know how to forgive her. im the type of person who has a few reallly good friends. and she was definitely the best out of the few. i feel like such a push overrr. so now i am miserable. i just sleep all the time. and id hate to admit it but i have been eating alot lesss. i just feel like maybe i should make changes to myself, i mean if im not fun enough for my best friend then who am i good enough for? no one. but now i dont like hanging out wit my other friends, i "miss" all of my boyfriends callls because i cant bare to face him...and now with the new school year coming i just am really scared. i have no good friends at school really.. just alot of normal friends. and im worried because even though i know its not healthy, i refuse to eat......... it makes me want to throw up. and i get so mad al the time. i never get mad. but lately i have been soo mad tht i just have to throw things everywhere. and also i cry almost every day. this friend was very important to me, i feel like she died. someone help me. i dont want to be this way anymore. and i dont know if i should forgive her or forget her??? wat do i do???? thanx for ur time i rreallly appreciate it.

Answer 1

IMG I am going through the same thing right now I know how you feel omg I am really sad but I think I'm starting to get over it and I'm going back to school the day after tomorrow and I don't even know what to do I mean I can go with my other friends but yeah.... Hey if u ever wanna talk or anything u can email me or something if you want, my email adress Is in my profile thing just click on my pic

Answer 2

i would forget chelsea. now that school is starting just concentrate on school work. i went through this last year. and i gave her another chance she decided she would rather not be my friend all of the sudden and my grades started to drop i stopped eating and i spent most of my time in my room. but i moved on after a while and just this last summer was the best summer of my life. i relized i didnt need her and the c**p she was giving me. i hope you make the right choice.

- Ashley

Answer 3

Just pray for her and leave it in Gods hands, if she is really your friend she will not go away for good, real friends,always come back, and don't let it get you down, what good is that doing?

Answer 4

Well I hate 2 tell u but u have 2 4get about her. if she is involved in drugs and all that **** and u r not then sooner or later if u hang with her u r going 2 be smokin pot with her. And NO u should not change who u r 4 her u be who u r! I think sence the new school year is coming up u should get closer 2 those friends who u consider not be be best best best friends with, but it could turn out like that and they could b way better friends then her. I mean it was wrong with what she did but when a person does not want 2 b friends with sum1 else they ushually do drift apart like she did 2 u because she did not want 2 hurt ur feelings. But thats when u r going 2 b strong and get more best best best friends that will be like that 4ever. But u really do have 2 4get about her its 4 ur own good. as far as the eating thing goes u have 2 stop I don't know if u r balimic or anirexic or what but I really don't think u should be making urself sick over the likes of her cuz u sound like a better person then she is. so walk in2 school with a big smile and get closer 2 the friends u have.