I’ve known this girl for a while now, but I just recently started to converse with her a lot over the summer. I truly care about her. She just recently moved away to college last week and I’ve been devastated. She moved five hours away and I’m crushed that I can’t talk to her as much anymore. I really feel like we have a connection when we talk, but a girl that beautiful is bound to not stay single long so I decided to send her a message telling her that I liked her and how I wanted to tell her over the summer but never got a chance and she responded to me something along the lines “I’m probably the nicest guy she knows, and she really means that. That I’m considerate and kind and an all around great guy, but she’s just not really looking for relationships at the time and doesn’t want to ruin our friendship if we went out since relationships with friends previously didn’t work out well.†I responded with something like “The last thing I would want to do is ruin our friendship, but that I understand that she isn’t looking for a relationship at the time, and who knows what the future holds. When she starts looking for relationships again that maybe I’d be considered, and maybe I wouldn’t but no matter what I would still love to remain friends.â€Â
The entire situation reminded me of a quote I herd from somewhere that I would like to share.
“A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, you have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.†– Anonymous
So what I'm really asking for is for some output. What do you guys think of this situation. I'm under the impression that she likes me, but not the same way that I like her and what she said to me was just a way to let me down easily. Any advice on how I can improve my situation, or just throw in your two cents?
“Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you...I lost all control.†– Anonymous
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