I need some help? Be honest?

Question

I got invited to a baby shower. I have never met the mother or the father, so I thought it was a bit weird that I was invited. The mother is one of my step moms brothers sisters kids uncle mom kinda thing. I agreed to go. I am sure I will never met this child in my life. I was just wondering how much should I spend on a gift? Usually I spend about $75 but I dont plan on spending that much. Do you think $20 is cheap? I am sure I was only invited for a gift....obviously! Be honest, what should I spend?

Answer 1

It's the thought that counts, not how much you spend. If it were me, I wouldn't spend over $20 on the gift

Answer 2

20 is fine, esp for someone youve never met.  

Answer 3

Yeah, that!

I'd probably go to TJ Maxx and get a sling or something.  They had the NoJo slings last time I was there.

They were like 20 bucks but it looks like you spent more.

I have found that at most baby showers people don't give slings so it will probably be a well received gift.  I gave one to a friend of mine and she used it all the time and loved it.  I usually just spend like 20 bucks because I have two babies of my own and I'm a SAHM so money is a little tight.

If you don't want to do that, go to JC Penney because they're having a buy one get one for a dollar sale.  You can get two layette sets and not spend a lot of money.  :)

Answer 4

$20 sounds right to me.

Answer 5

It's too bad you agreed to go. Not knowing the parents-to-be is a perfectly legit reason to not go at all.

You might still get out of it if you claim to have later realized you "Simply can't come. I'm so sorry, but it just won't work out for me" (keep your "excuse" vague).

But, if you real feel you have to go, remember, no polite person notices how much money one spends on a gift. If they try to make you feel bad, then don't let their rudeness shame you.

My sister always told me the best thing to get is night-wear for 6 or 9 month olds. Most people bring stuff for newborns (and often impractical, frilly stuff the baby isn't going to wear often). It's when the baby has outgrown all of that stuff that a few practical things are greatly appreciated.

Another thing is that set of plastic "donuts" for the baby (when older) to put on the "pole" thingy. Babies love them, at first, to chew, later to put on the pole thingy. It helps them develop eye-hand coordination, and is something they find engaging. I don't know what they're called, but each donut is a different size, and the pole thing has a bent base that babies like to rock the whole toy on.

A gift is a TOKEN of your good wishes for the baby and parents (and secondarily helps them out with the expenses of outfitting a new baby).

Answer 6

20 is a lot for someone you've never met :)

They will love you ....

Answer 7

$20.00 is enough, get like a gift card or something..  

Answer 8

$20 sounds like plenty to me. Especially if you've never even met her.  

Answer 9

20 is fine!!