I need some help on deciding what to do?

Question

I have a brother who is having his first child, Well my sister- in- law is due any day now and this is the deal they live up state so it is about a couple hours away, My mother and I can't stand her but we love my brother so o well. Well anywayz Her family is going to be their for a couple of weeks so we would have to stay in a motel somewhere. We want to go but it seems as if the don't want us to go. They say that if we are comming that we would have to stay in the motek most of the tome and i don't know what else. Should we go or stay home. I really want to see my nephew be born but i don't want to be a nuisance. What sould i do?

Answer 1

I would go, it's your brother and your new nephew and I think you should be there to celebrate this new life even if you can't stand "her" or her family. It's better to stay in the motel if you won't feel comfortable in their house

Answer 2

If you and your mom "can't stand" your brother's wife, it's no wonder you are not especially welcome.  

Having a baby is extremely stressful, physically and emotionally.  Your sister-in-law has every right to only want loving, supportive people around her.

I would suggest going for a few days, staying in a motel, and working on your relationship.  This is the mother of your nephew.  

Be well.

Answer 3

If you are not invited to watch the birth, then it would be better not to go at this time.  She will have family close by to help her with the baby for the first little while.  Ask her if she would like you to visit and assist her with the extra tasks required of her after the baby is home and her relatives have left.  Maybe she is not up to the task and the extra demands of having visitors so soon after the baby arrives.  

You have said that you do not like her.  She will obviously not feel like she is part of your family.  Having her family close by means that she can relax and accept their help.  Having your family there will feel like she has to be on special behaviour because you are guests and will require meals and visiting time.

Answer 4

Well I think since it's your brother and your mothers son you have just as much right to stay with them as her family does ya she may be the pregnate one but still thats totally not right..

Answer 5

PLEASE GO! The most important thing is being there to share in the joy of your nephew's birth with your brother and his significant other! Try your best  to be the bigger person, YOU CAN DO IT! Good luck with everything and I pray it works out in the BEST way for all parties!!