I need some help with high school !?

Question

so im a sophomore in highschool and i seem to think that i have a pretty good hold on life and i have some pretty good friends. I hang out with the good crowd and dont get into much trouble. i dont smoke, drink, or do anything stupid... so i guess you could call me a "good kid".

freshman year, people didnt really seem to change and all that but now it seems like everyone is changing and its hard to keep up with whats going on...

just today i found out that one of my friends had s*x with her BF. she used to be a good kid but now it seems like shes changing and i dont really know how to talk to her about this...

One of my other really good friends had a crush on this guy who had hurt her and her friends before and has slept with some of my friends... and i dont know how to talk to her either about how much of a player and a manwhore he is...

and finally one of my best friends in the whole world seems to be getting closer to me... like flirting wise... dont get me wrong shes a great girl, and we have had some history but she is kind of changing and last time she kindda dumped me for a senior that turned out to be a d**k too her and i had to come bail her out, literally. and i find myself falling for her again and im not quite sure what too do... shes grounded so its not like i can ask her out or anything... so i dont know what to do.

My real question is this high school? is this what happens to good people, do they lose the ones they love?

any advice would be great on any or all of the subjects above... thanks

Answer 1

Well, i'm going into sophmore year tom, and over the summer i have had the same issues. I am known as "buddah" with some of my friends because i'm so honest. If you want to help these people you need to be direct and straightfoward with them, beating around the bush will get you no where. Are you willing to hurt there feelings in order to save their life? That is what it comes down to.

Answer 2

to tell you the truth it can happen to anyone when the chance come..and if you are falling for this girl let her know.. i know some guy liked me and he thought i didnt like him cuz i didnt tell him so he moved on but  i really did like him and now i lost him  

Answer 3

Oh the drama in High school, either deal with it or don't, it's there to stay thur out your HS years.  Even in college and Life. That's just the way it is...  

Answer 4

That's not highschool my friend, that is LIFE. People change all the time. I had really good friends, that now I don't even talk to anymore. I'm not saying that is going to happen in your situations, but change is something you need to adapt to. You will find out who your true friends are, believe me. But if you really do like that girl, give her a chance. But take it slow. Don't just ask her out right away, Give it time and see if she is willing to wait for you. Then you will know. Good luck in life!

Answer 5

sadly, yes. this is high school. im a girl but im a sophomore and am going through the EXACT situations. even though were in the same boat, i think i can help you out. so your friend who is changing, talk to her. but dont attack her. its hard to hear other people tell you tht ur doing something "bad". she probably feels guilty herself. but thts part of life. i mean theres not much u can do considering it IS her bf... but maybe u could tell her tht she doesnt have to have s*x to keep him and things like tht. the player....  mk so my friend goes for the players also and im here to tell you there is NOTHNG you can do. u can tell her over and over tht this guy will hurt her but in the end she will have to learn on her own, all you can do is be there for her when he does. :( this girl, i say give it your all and flirt flirt flirt. let her know how you feel. most girls dont like wondering if you like them so just tell her. if its meant to be, then she will see it your way. if its not... someone new and better will come along tht likes you for who you are and appreciates all your good morals. :) best of luck !  

Answer 6

Simple.

1. 5 years after HS, you will no longer be in touch with 99 percent of your High School friends.  So enjoy the time you spend with them now.

2. If your a good kid, focus on your studies, get into a good college and have a successful career, but make sure you have fun along the way.  You dont get to be a teen twice.

3.  Dont worry about what others are doing, be an individual, and make decisions for yourself based on common sense.  Dont follow the pack just to fit in if you know they are wrong.  Dont tell them they are wrong, just let them make decisions for themselves.  People dont like being put down.

4.  Be a leader.  If you are a leader, and you lead with good intentions and positive actions, you will steer people clear of adversity.

5.  Live life to its fullest every day.  

6. This will all make more sense to you a few years out of high school, you will just have to trust me right now.

Answer 7

Welcome to high school *clean your shoes before walking in please its already dirty enough*

just imagine what your senior year is going to be like (fun all around)

just keep your priorities in place and you'll be good

and about your friends well they are old enough to care for themselves.

Or are you going to look after them for the rest of their life?

good luck

Answer 8

HS is full of drama. Kids are growing up and trying to figure out who they are. It sounds like you have a very good self image and goals. Never lose sight of those goals. HS will be over and yuo have a future to plan for.

This girl doesn't sound right for you, at least not right now. Find someone with the same values you have and you will be fine. Remember, some kids don't even date until they're out of HS and that's not a bad idea.