I need some insight on odd things happening in our house. A few months ago my father passed away?

Question

(at the hospital due to cancer).My father used to smoke in his room which he shared with my mother- and my mom wakes up to a smoke filled room.Twice. She even found one of his cigarettes on the floor the next morning. No one else was in the house except me, and I didn't do it. She swears she's seen him walk down the hallway to his room. While in the shower, my sons toy starts playing for no reason. At first I thought it was the humidity from the shower, so I threw it out in the hallway, but it started up again. My sons lullaby toy started up (while he was crying) which was across the room- no remote control. When I take pics of the house the batteries go dead immediately. I have tried EVP's but either I'm not getting anything or the volume isn't loud enough- batteries don't last long enough. I'm scared, but reassured at the same cuz I think it's dad. Suggestions?

Answer 1

Hi there! Just found your question, so ignore what I asked in the email. LOL

First of all, I know scary that stuff can be, it can still startle me sometimes, cause your logical brain is still thinking, "okay, that's not supposed to be able to happen." But don't be frightened. They can't hurt you, even the dark ones have no power unless you give it to them.

But that is a spirit trying desperately to get your attention. My father kept knocking a folded up poster off a bookshelf to get mine, I'd walk into the room and it would just fly off the shelf. I have another one who taps on my bed, had one little girl who tap on the walls. Sounds to me like you haven't heard or seen his previous attempts at contact, so he's getting more obvious. The smoke filling the room just screams at me that this was meant to be a hint, that your mother  would recognize it.

As for no pictures or EVPs.... I have no idea, honestly, could just be another way that he's trying to get your attention.

Just tell him out loud that you know he's there. "Okay Dad, I get it, I see you. Now stop moving stuff you're scaring me." lol Then maybe ask him to show you what he wants. I'm not getting anything specific, but more of a feeling that he just wants you to know he's around, that he's not really gone, he's still there. The toy in the tub... he was playing with your son. The lullibye toy, same thing--he started it because he knew it would soothe the boy. All done out of love. Was your father a strong willed person? Soft-hearted, loved his family, but i get a sense of a very strong person. He went out fighting is the feeling I get. It's very distinct, this feeling. He was very strong of character, very sound of mind, very strong in his convictions and opinions, but always done with love. That's the feeling I get from what's happening around your house, that he wasn't one to beat around the bush. SEE ME, he says. You can't hear him, so he's showing you, loudly, "I'M HERE".

I've lost my father and my grandfather so far, and I miss them both terribly, the way you must your father. But they're never farther away then your heart. Next he moves something, close your eyes and hold out your hands to him, trust any physical or emotional senses that you get. Pure love, given to the heart from someone who loves me, always makes cry, because it hits you right in the heart. Its always a sign to me.

mmmm. I see him smiling now. Yeah, he just wants you to know he's still there. His body may be gone, but his spirit will forever remain with you. Because love knows no bounds. The heart never dies.

peace and love to you.

Answer 2

My dad passed away last year too. We had his funeral and he was buried on Halloween :)  He would have laughed at that, he had that kind of sense of humor. Anyway, so sorry to hear this and I hope that you all are mending.

Anyhow, I would suspect that these things you are noticing are really just mundane, common things that you've never noticed before. But now that your dad is gone and you miss him, you're looking for signs that he is still around. My son's toys go off all the time, even when no one is in the room. I blame it on cheap electronics.

Answer 3

First, I am terribly sorry for the loss of your father. My father passed away last year from a heart attacked triggered by his long term smoking. It is a difficult time and not something you ever truly recover from.

The incidents you describe seem to have connections to your father as you have probably concluded already. Most likely it is one of two things. It is either your father not ready to let the family go and the earthly life or it is your family not ready to accept he is gone. Perhaps it is a bit of both.

If it is your father, then he obviously does not wish any harm or fear upon the family. If something occurs again, talk to him. Tell him from the heart that you miss him, but what is going on scares you, that you do not mind him watching out for the family, but he cannot keep upsetting things with his activity. If it is him, he loves you and would understand. If it is not, no harm is done in trying to talk with him.

If it is your family not accepting the loss. The events you describe can be a number of things. The can be wishful thinking or self-delusions. I am not saying you are crazy by any means. What I am saying is if you want something bad enough, your mind can interrupt things not as it is but as you want it to be. In instances like those, normal situations and coincidences can take on paranormal meaning. Another factor to consider is that through strong feelings of grief, one of you is starting to act as a poltergeist agent and creating small doses of psychokinietic energy. This resulting in the smoke or toys going off.

Regardless of the reasons, some things you can do besides talking to your father is put an air purifier in your mothers room. You can also put new batteries in your kids toys. My children have a few toys in which if the batteries are close to drained, wierd things happen like they turn on by themselves.

If things continue to progress, seek help. Ask your local paranormal investigators (I can help you find one in your area if needed), clergy, or whomever you feel comfortable with.

Answer 4

You obviously do feel your dad's presence or you wouldn't suspect that he is there.   I agree about the smell of smoke getting trapped in fabrics but old smoke residue smells completley different from  a burning cigarette.    

First of all, don't be afraid.   If it is your Dad he will eventually move on.   Just talk to him and tell him that you all will be ok and he can go where he needs to go now.   I wish you luck, and try not to be scared.

Answer 5

Forgive Jonquill, she does not know of Bed Side Manner.

Well first of all sorry to hear of your father's passing. Second have you posted something about this before, it sounds familiar? I do not think you are crazy. It is definitely possible that something is going on but I do think your fear is unintentionally factoring in.

The dark room with shadows was probably all from being in a frightened state of mind. The cigeratte  the floor could not have just materialized, it could have accidently been knocked from a dresser of under the bed, I do not know but I would not give much thought to that. The smoke, while sounds greatly exaggerated  by your mother (not you) is a sign of the paranormal. The batteries draining is another sign. The toy is probably nothing. If it is your father, he is probably not trying to scare you, you are   scaring yourself. And yes you can tell it to leave and it probably will. If it scares you, you need to sternly tell it to leave. GL, oh and you can email me if you have any questions later on.

EDIT: I forgot to mention that a smoke smell can stay in materials like carpet, but if she saw smoke itself, then that is different a sign of the paranormal.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but your father is dead and he is not coming back either in physical or ethereal form. I know this is hard to accept, but you need to work towards accepting it in order to move forward in your grieving process. The belief that he is still somehow around will only delay this.

The only way he will live on is as a memory, relish this.

Answer 7

it could be your dad just letting you know he is OK if this is scaring you just say out loud that you don't like it if it continues i would speak to someone from your local spiritualist church i hope it improves soon

Answer 8

What answer do you want? Someone to tell you it is your Dad's spirit and he loves you and would never harm you?

Or would you like someone to answer with some more realistic suggestions such as - the smell from cigarettes can linger for a long time, your mother was asleep when she thought the room filled with smoke (ie dreaming) and you didn't see it which also suggests she dreamed it.

There is something wrong with your kids toy. Your camera batteries are stuffed.

Your kid laughs at nothing - normal behavior for a toddler.

You can be rational and realize what you have is grief and imagination or if you prefer you can continue to think your house is full of irrational battery flattening ghosts.

Answer 9

The simplest explanation is more likely to be true.And any of the prosaic answers could be true .If it is a series of coincidences,which I don't think it is,there is nothing to be afraid of.If it is your father's spirit, there is certainly nothing to be afraid of. Looks like you are getting a laundry list if phenomena. THe more evidence you get ,the closer you will be to a  good answer. Consider the odds of new sets of batteries going dead repeatedly.Not likely .Does the camera or tape recorder drain batteries if used in another place?

That would rule out equipment malfunction.

    Let me tell you about an experience with another toy.

My wife collects dolls of all kinds ,antique to brand new.. She

had this one talking black doll which would talk when not activated.SHe had it checked out by a technician--no problems. The doll would begin talking every time one of her family would go thru some misfortune or tragedy.She believed that her dead mother was making the doll talk.She found an identical white doll in a flea market.

  One evening, the white doll began to talk also.Willa then spoke out loud to her mama and said "If it's really you ,make the black doll talk."  Immediately,the white doll stopped ,and the black doll started talking. Pretty dramatic but true . I would be skeptical if I hadn't been sitting there watching and hearing the whole thing.

Answer 10

I don't think you are crazy. There are things in this life that we cannot explain and the paranormal is one of em. It is 100% in my opinion your father.

Answer 11

"It" won't get angry. I believe people who are dead and have passed on are above petty human emotions like anger and jealousy.

All you have to do is just to please ask him to stop because it is scaring you.

If he has already passed on and is visiting you in spirit form, you have nothing to worry about and he will stop. If he has lingered behind for some reason, perhaps out of love, you just need to talk to him and tell him to embrace the light of God (if you are a theist) or go where he needs to go. It might take some time if that is the case, but eventually he will pass on.

Answer 12

As it was so soon ago, I believe his spirit is still about. He means no harm - he just wants to look after you. I think he really wants to see his grandson grow up, and will probably wait patiently untill it is your mums time.

At the moment he's just showing you he's there - and that it's not that bad. If you tell him that he is scaring you, he may adjust his behaivoir. At the moment he won't have the energy to do anything more than what he's doing. You can tell him to leave for a bit if you like, while you think of how to handle things.