I need some oppinions.

Question

Please try to keep your religious beliefs out of it and if you also against abortion, Feel free to answer but please don't crisisize.

Ok so my friend is pregnant, She was in a very abusive relationship and she has since left him (3 days ago) the night he left he bashed her up. She has put a restraining order on him but she knows it won't keep him away for long, He is a psycho..while he was packing his car he was singing a song about murdering her. Anyway she is considering getting an abortion because she is terrified that he will kill her or the baby or kidnap it one day. I have tried thinking of ways to help her, i've made suggestions like her leaving town and coming to stay with me (where he wont find her). But she doesn't want to leave her whole life behind. She really doesn't want to have the abortion but she is convinced that its whats best for the baby, she feels that no matter which way she goes about it she's being selfish. I have spoken to her about adoption but its not a very simple procedure where she lives, I have even contemplated adopting the baby myself but i don't have the money to do so.

So i'm just curious to know what everyone else thinks. I can see the point where she woulden't be able to give the child a good life, And she puts its life at risk just by giving birth to it. I know people say 'all you need is love' and she has more then enough to give, but love alone doesn't provide and protect a child.

Answer 1

soo srry for your friend  

she cant get a abortion the baby will chang her life

she should get out of town and you should go with her  

and call the fbi so they can help with it  

And if she has family that lives out  of town send her thare and till she okay u can go but let her stay thare

Answer 2

Through an ultrasound I was able to see my own daughter inside of me 26 days after I conceived. The Dr pointed out a little pulsating light on the screen which was her heartbeat. The last time I checked, if your heart is beating you are alive.

My ex husband was a drug addict who threatened to murder the baby and myself in ways that are to horrible to mention. He also threatened to kidnap her.  I left him anyway and have never seen him again. My daughter is now 14 and a healthy, happy and amaizing young woman. She is going to do great things with her life better things then I ever could have done. The world is a better place because I chose to sacrifice some of my life in order to make hers possible.

Answer 3

my personal opinion is to get out of harms way and have the baby. i do not believe in abortion but i feel that certain people do it for certain reasons. i am not sure i will ever understand why or how they can function afterwards, i could never do it but some can. it is a choice that you will face the rest of your life.. i am not saying that it will be an easy road by any means but it would be a worthwhile trip to have the baby. the baby is apart of you. there are other options such as adoption even though its not easy in your home town but it would allow you to be involved in the baby's life with the secure feeling of knowing she/he will be taken care of and safe at all times. i dont think that you will find an answer on yahoo answers by any means. i would suggest start another life somewhere new for the time being and persue action against that useless "man''. talk to a planned parenthood near you. they have counslers and can offer more information to you and allow you to make a choice. 123 go is an idiot and makes stupid remarks.

sorry... i worded it for your friend...didnt mean to...

Answer 4

abortion is not murder....it's removing a fetus (cells that will later develop into a baby once born)

they are $400-$1,000 but well worth it

it's being responsible.

if a kid gets pregnant by being irresponsible (or just unlucky) then they should have no shame in getting an abortion. if their parents wanted another kid then THEy would had one. the parents would end up being the main care takers anyways,. it's just unfair for them and the friends of the kid pregnant.

people say adoption, and yet have no idea of the thousands of abused and unwanted kids that grow up KNOWING they were unwanted and a mistake. some never even get good homes! I'm adopted lucky for me I was raised by a wealthy family and have done very well. I also have had an abortion...so I know both sides

---a fetus is not a baby. a "baby" is the born result, and a fetus is still unborn...look it up in a medical dictionary! I've done 3 college reports on abortion

---"keep out religious beliefs" and also if you're "against abortion" ...really?! you dont want any opinions! you just want people to tell you that you're right

Answer 5

Wow the situation is intense. I can understand why she would feel that way but I think you should first off remind her that she has just endured alot of pain. Her decision making skills may not be at there best right now. Just to let you know, I'm not a beleiver in abortion. My personal opinion is that she should have the baby and resume her normal life with caution. Most "physcos" will not act on their threats. MOST. There is a reason God blessed her with a child, it possibly gave her strength to leave that horrible man. I do not think badly of your friend. My advice is to think things through. Consider the future and how she will feel about the decision she makes. I'll pray for her and I wish her the best.