I need some serious help, what are my options?

Question

I kicked out my ex last weekend, his mother and him are harassing me by calling non stop and threatening to have me arrested for witholding property of his that I do NOT have and I have told them this. They are stressing me out so bad to the point of giving me anxiety attacks. I have already told him and his mommy to stop calling and texting me and they continue to do so, I'm about to call the police, but I'm afraid that will make it worse, what will the police do if I call and report them for harassment, will they be arrested or will they just go talk to them and tell them to leave me alone? Would a restraining order be a better way to go? Any other suggestions on how to handle these nut cases would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

get a restraining order, call the police for harassment and change your phone number...they sound like crazy folks!

Answer 2

call the cops change your numbers,

Answer 3

Don't delete the text messages and let the voice mail pick up any phone calls from them.  Put the phone on silent, or, if it's a landline, shut off the ringer.  Call the police and file a harassment complaint.  Go to court and get a restraining order.

In that order.

Answer 4

if they are that hard headed to call the cops yes they would go over and have a nice chat with them and the calls would start agan,Go to the magesrates office  and get a simple restraining order on them both if the sh(*t starts up then call the cops and they can go spend the night with them for violateing the order that would be the best way to get some sleep and peace

Answer 5

they will probably just go and tell them to leave you alone. i had a similar thing happen to me and thats all the cops did. if it persists - they can be arrested. save ALL phone messages, texts and anything else to show the police. even the ones you sent out. Good luck sweety. guys are douches. im living with an *** now.

Answer 6

First of all, you must document.

1.  Keep a journal with a detailed account of what is said and/or done. [Date, time, what occurred - with quotes if possible -, and witnesses].

2.  Call the police and ask how to protect yourself and obtain an Order of Protection.

3.  Call the phone company and ask them what you can do about harassing calls.  Change your phone number and have it unlisted.

Do not play games with these people!  Once you have the OP, if they break it -- report them immediately!

You may also want to contact your local domestic abuse organization and request crisis intervention so you do not choose another "mommh's-boy//abuser" again!

Answer 7

okay this VERY serious. first document the harrassment. Keep the dates, times, even record or keep the phone conversations/voice messages or emails. That way when you talk to the police & I really think you should bc they sound crazy and pyscho, they will have that evidence.

don't worry about what may or may not happen. Just go talk to the police and you can discuss what to do next bc only they TRULY know what can be done according to law & what they can do for you.

I don't know much about restraining orders but it is usually a necessary step that ppl who are being stalked/harrassed do. (both of these applies to you)

Take some self defense classes, it may soothe your fear. get pepperspray, i guess if you still feel unsafe. Stay with some family or friends if you can.

PS this is VERY serious so plz go to the police. You cannot try and understand what crazy nuts might do, bc they are crazy & unpredictable. All the more reason to get help ASAP.

Answer 8

Hi I had a slightly different experience and this is how I had to handle it.  My ex-husbands girlfriend became very harrassing towards me, his mom,my mom basically anybody who was connected to him and she even yelled at my son who's 9 but was 5 at the time.  I had to talk to my support system and we all agreed to ignore her but when that didn't work I had to file a complaint agaisnt her at the court house.  She agreed to have a meeting with a person and myself about trying to resolve the situation...it worked for a while.  We didn't hear anytthing from her but then she started to harrass my ex again and he finally told her where to go and she only keeps in touch once in a blue moon as far as I know.  But, she doesn't call me or anyone else.  So, talk to your support system, file a complaint or restraining order and if you have to change your phone number and email address.  I know it is a pain but it will be worth it when you don't hear from them anymore.  Good luch and let me know how things went.

Answer 9

Depends' if you don't have a good relationship with them. IIf not file charges. But a restraining order I think would be better

Answer 10

Hey, sorry you are going through this.  You need to protect yourself at all times.  Some people don't handle break ups well and go out of their way to disrupt your life.  In the case of your ex and his mother, you should contact the police and file a complaint.  Once you tell someone to stop calling you, they do not have the right  to keep on doing it.  Keep a log of how many times they call (date, time, duration) so that when the case goes to court, a restraining order can be issued.  They will only be arrested if they violate the restraining order.

Under no circumstances should you let him back into the house unless the police are present.  If he feels that he left something behind, the police will escort him through the house to look for it, and will make him leave when the search is over.  If he threatens to hurt you during the phone calls, make sure you tell the police.  If your ex has any guns, you should tell the police officer and the judge.  The judge can order that he surrenders any weapons while the restraining order is in effect.

If you haven't done so already, change the locks on all of your doors.  If you have an alarm, change your pass code/confirmation code with your alarm company.  If you are afraid this situation is going to get out of control, make sure you stay alert when getting out of your car.  Look out of the window/peep hole before leaving your house.  If you feel you are in danger don't hesitate to call the police.

Hopefully things aren't this serious, but if he has a history of violence against you or other women, you  need to be careful.

Answer 11

Call the police say there harassing you tell the cops to search your house for the items they claim you have to prove you don't have them.The cops  will tell them to stop get a restraining order on them. If they continue to harass you then tape a message of theirs or save a text show it to police and they will get in trouble for violating the restraining order.

Answer 12

I would block their calls and go to the police.

Answer 13

You need to call the police and then get a restraining order. Stress the fact that you are afraid for your personal safety. Also try talking to an attorney about, some of your options.

Answer 14

call the police file a report, they WILL talk to them then get a restraining order. this is not something to play with it could get out of control in an instant.

Answer 15

Call the police, they'll talk to them 1st. You will then have a better chance getting the restraining order later

Answer 16

a restraining order would be good, then if they dont stop get their asses arrested.