I need some suggestions about what to do for my husband

Question

As many of you all know, I had twins recently. While I was pregnant I got into a car crash that banged me up pretty badly. Through all of this my husband has been my rock and my support. I couldn't ask for a better husband and father to our children.

I'd really like to do something wonderful and special for him but everything I come up with seems so....lame...in comparison to what he has done for me.

Do you all have any suggestions on what I should do for him?

I'd particularly like some suggestions from the regulars I know since you all are the ones who know my life and relationship with my husband the best but I'm open to suggestions from anyone.

Thanks you guys!

Answer 1

I hope you are now back in good health. As a special treat for your husband, how about a helicopter trip, or a hot air balloon experience, or maybe a day at a track where he gets the chance to drive a real race car. I'm listing these things from my point of view, as being the type of surprise that I would enjoy. I hope this is helpful to you.

Answer 2

As a husband I have been in the same basic scenario your speaking of. My wife had fallen ill and required a great deal of care. We have two children and at the time they were both toddlers and it was alot to manage.

In the end the very best thing I received was a genuine sense of appreciation. Even today, years later she brags to her girl friends about the months of h**l and how I took care of everything. That was better than any gift you can buy.

Answer 3

Well it's a little soon after the babies...I'd give it another month or two.  (you heal, get them settled ect)

A date...all out just you and him date.  Big one.  Ditch the little ones with grandma.  Dress to impress...(lord knows you have no problem with that)

Dinner, concert, hit the bar/club/ or coffee house afterward.  Stay out all night.  Pretend your still "dating", flirt, laugh do goofy things to get a laugh from him. ...(ok thats more me)  

Idea is to get the two of you acting and having fun like you did when you first were dating....kids can easily throw a runt into such things.   It takes a little planning to be spontaneous now....but every relationship needs such.  

Answer 4

Well two things come to mind. The first is a candle- light dinner.

The other is a baseball and  three gloves or some other sporting item for he and the boys when they grow up.  Wrap it in a box and leave a note that reads " For you and  the boys". He'll know what it means.  Good luck and take it easy.

Answer 5

Book him a trip into space.

Answer 6

Buy some massage oils and give him a body massage. Play relaxing music and have candles burning. This will show him that you appreciate everything he does for you. Learn how to do some cool massages from a book or find a site on the internet like this one:

http://www.peacefulmind.com/massage.htm

This site has some good ideas of how to massage. Maybe you could get a family member of friends to watch the Shamlets for a couple hours so you aren't interrupted a trillion times. Good luck and I hope this helps!  

Answer 7

Rent him a hotel room and let him sleep through the night!

Answer 8

Make him the best sandwich he's ever had!

Men are easy to please.

Answer 9

:) Awww, you're so precious! What a wonderful wife and mommy you are!!

This is sort of going to sound like Rose's answer, but I'll give 'er a try.

You said before that you had babysitters to last you forever - take up the offer one of your friends made for a night of babysitting. I'm sure they'll be thrilled. I'm always dying to babysit when one of my friends has a new little one in the house! :D

Set your house up in a really romantic way - dim the lights, light some candles, set the table with your fancy dishes, buy a bottle of wine or champagne and "woo" him all night. Cook his favorite dish and make a desert he loves. He'll feel really special because I'm sure with the new little ones in the home, you are both hard pressed for time to lavish each other with attention and wonderful meals.

I like to go to the spa and buy the massage oils that they sell (the warming ones) and give my boyfriend massages. If you're comfortable doing that, you could give him a massage. I always rub his feet because he stands on them all day long at work - never gets to sit down. Perhaps your hubby might enjoy that?

Another thing you could do is book a couples' day at the spa. I know a lot of men laugh this one off, but a lot can be said about a day devoted entirely to your comfort and relaxation. The spa I go to gives a "gentlemen's manicure" with no polish (obviously), but focuses on dry cracked hands and does a treatment for them. They will typically do a full arm and leg massage with this. Plus, after having your babies, have you really had a chance to just sit down and bask in relaxation? You both deserve it! :) Chocolate body masks are wonderful and if you are both in the same room, it could be sort of hot ;)

Another idea - get him tickets for a sporting or music event that he's really into. Maybe you could get him a ticket for him and his best guy friend, or maybe you could go with him? You could even plan a "Guys day out" for him so he can just chill with his buddies. If he fishes, you can pack a cooler full of beer and rent the boat for him or whatever - how cool would that be of you? Men love women who appreciate their love of beer! haha!! If you have the sitter for that day, you could do a girls day out as well...have you had a chance to be alone with your girlfriends yet? I'm sure they're dying to spend some time with you! You could go out and buy some post-baby new outfits and treat yourself!! :)

I didn't know you were in an accident sweetie...that's horrible. I'm angry that all of these people are telling you to get driving lessons...how rude. It's adorable that you're trying to find a way to take care of your man as he took care of you. I feel like some times it's hard to make up for something so wonderful that our guys do for us, but you have lots of ideas here. No matter what you end up doing, I'm sure he knows you love and appreciate him and everything he's helped you through.

Answer 10

To be completely honest, your husband did his duty. That is the sign of a good man. Him doing his duty doesn't require gifts.

You could just return the favor of being a rock and supportive. Material goods can't equal emotional and the other types of support your husband gave to you.

Was the f*cker talking on a cell phone when he drove you off the road?  

Answer 11

so are you ok now? any injuries?

congrats on the twins.

you could bake\make him his favourite dish.

Answer 12

I'm terribly sorry about what happened with your motor vehicle accident.

If you really wish to please your husband, here's what we really like, frankly:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O6htOTlQI...

Answer 13

If you can sing, sing a special song just for him.  

Answer 14

Hi, congrats btw, I wished you well on the post from your friend but that account was suspended so I doubt that you saw it. I was beaming away to myself when I heard.

I was driving around a roundabout 15 years ago and I saw a heavily pregnant girl  fall out of a car, just like that, and off she went, rolling down the road. Anyway ten years later, there was a girl that I liked, we were always at the same clubs and after parties, we eventually got together, turned out, she was the pregnant girl who fell out of the car. She was fine and so was her son.  

I'd think about small things you can do or say on a regular basis as opposed to organizing some big event for him.

Answer 15

Tickets to a ball game always put a smile on my husband's face.  Perhaps you could do something similar.  I know the twins may still be a little young to stay with someone else, but perhaps you could find a game   he would really appreciate, or a concert he would really appreciate in a few months and present them to him over a nice dinner.