I need suggestions for my teenage nephew.?

Question

My nephew is 16 and he's out of control. I think he might be an alcoholic and I'm extremely worried about him. His dad has custody, but he works out of town so he stays with his grandparents. They can't handle him. He basically does what he wants. He's really a good kid, but just misguided I guess. His mother lives on the other side of the country and she wants him to live with her. He refuses to live there because he grew up here. He was living with her for a few months earlier in the year, but he started threatening to hitchike back here. So she put him on a bus back. His dad would probably give me guardianship, but my nephew won't obey rules. He'd probably sneak out all the time. He is also in trouble with juvenile courts and I can't take off work every time he has to go to court! I also don't want to get a call that he's hurt himself or someone or worse. Suggestions please???!!!

Answer 1

he probably won't like it, but he might need some counseling, just so that he can vent and not act out. also, try getting him some kind of after-school activity to keep him busy and let of steam.

i wouldn't recommend trying to get custody just yet, believe it or not he'll respect and listen to you more when your not an authoritative figure. take him somewhere and see if he'll talk to you and tell you what's going on. don't lecture him, he probably doesn't want to hear that ad so he won't listen

to get him to talk, don't ask him how he's doing or anything like that, then it'll be obvious that you want him to talk to you. he has to believe that he's doing it of his own free will and he'll be pissed if he thinks you've tricked him. ask him simple and seemingly unimportant questions. you'll ind that once he starts talking to you about something simple, dinner, a friend, something at school, some hobby he has, he'll feel more comfortable with you and he'll open up to you some more.

don't get discouraged, he's a teenager, acting out is expected. he'll come around eventually.

Answer 2

I feel terrible for you all, that is such a difficult age.  Someone - his dad or you - should talk to someone in the juvenile court division and ask if he can be put into some kind of treatment program for what sounds like an addiction problem.  Once he turns 18, you'll loose your ability to have him put in a program because he's considered an adult.  I would think before he becomes an adult, he needs some treatment that will hopefully help with his behavior.  

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think he needs to go to juvie. that should straighten him up.

Answer 4

BEAT HIS ***! act like hes a dog. show your dominance. My mom use to  hit me hard, and then take away my phone privileges, when i would come home late. If he tries to hit back. dont let him.