I need the strength to move on and i can't find it!!!! ?

Question

I've been with my BF for 3 years now and i think the bad times outweigh the good. All we do is argue now every day about everything because i dont trust him at all. I know its easy for people to say just move on but i dont feel capable unless he leaves me. The reason for that is because he's my only source of income rite now and i feel too dependent on him. I feel like such a loser in my life rite now and depression is starting to take on me.

Not only is he emotionally abusive but it's been time we fought physically and that's another reason why i feel so impossible to leave. Not scared that he'll hit me but more so controlled in my mind to feel like i need him and i wont be sh*t without him.

I need help mentally empowering to find happiness in me cause i keep looking for my happiness in him and i'm never gonna find it cause i dont love myself enough.

I need some advice but not the "girl just leave his *** alone advice!" Some real helpful advice would help.

Answer 1

i will try my best to answer your question.

i'm saying you should move on

however, i think you should find a nice quiet place with no people to think. like a garden or a lake. and just go there alone.

no people or anything. so you won't get distracted.

you could also look at some of your baby photos.

i find that really soothing.

good luck.

and you must tell one of your best friends about what your boyfriend is doing to you. if she's a real true friend, she'll stand up to him.

Answer 2

Just find the strength.

Answer 3

Honey your story saddens me. Ok girlie lets create a POA: Plan of Action. First, you need to consider starting over, which may mean going back home or moving in with a friend for a moment. I would suggest that you start searching for a job or enroll in school. But YOU MUST GET OUT! The reason that you feel like you cannot leave also has spiritual implications as a source. When you fornicate (s*x  w/o marriage) you open yourself up to different spirits and these spirits work with your flesh; they actully control your fleshly decisions. These are called strong holds. The only way to break free is fasting "abstaining from food for a period of time" (read Isaiah 58 for more info on fasting and what it does) and you must learn that in order to break free from these evil spirits, you must fight in the holy spirit to pull down the strong holds. You are emotionally attached to this man and he knows that he is in control of the situation: where you gon go??? In his mind "no where." The reason you don't trust him, is because you know that he is still messing around with other females and in some instances he puts them before you and it hurts you. This is not how a good relationship should be! The only way you will find the strength to move on is if you really want to be free. ----Feel free to email me anytime.

Answer 4

It is best to spend some time alone and listen to what your head is saying to you . getting up every day will give you strength and as days past it will become stronger, and the head will show you a way out and forward . it will only take time and listening to your inner being and life will be better

DO NOT HANG AROUND PEOPLE WHO ARE NEGATIVE

God Bless

Answer 5

first off if he loved you he wouldnt do that to you find a good friend or your mom or dad sibling whatever and askk if you can move in with them then when hes at work or whatever pack upo ur stuff and leave take it to ur "new" home you could leave a note or meet up with him in a PUBLIC place that way he cant scream or hit youor h**l get in trouble definetly find a jobb and just work so you can live on your own you will be perfectly fine without him ull be better off without him you need to be with a man that will respect and love you good luck be strong and stand up to that jerk! (i kno u didnt want mean stuff said about him but the truth hurts)

Answer 6

I would say to you, go and get some relationship therapy, and take him with you, if you feel this way.I personally would not take this kind of abuse from anyone, and you deserve a lot better for yourself