I need tips on how to be less nervous around people quick!

Question

Okay.

So tomorrow I'm probably going to hang out with a friend who

I haven't talked to or hung out with in over a year.

I just recently started talking to him again, and decided to asked if he wanted to hang out sometime.

I almost wanted him to say no. lol.

I only asked because one of my other friends likes him too and I didn’t want to lose my chance.

Anyway!

I'm always really self-conscious and nervous around people and I'm looking for some tips on how to not make a fool of myself. Any advise?

Answer 1

i use to be like that just say to yourself what can go wrong

Answer 2

I'm also in the same boat as you :)

i think you have too learn to deal with it and you should soon overcome it. Just relax, take a few deep breaths. What have you got to worry about anyway?!

you'll be fine

Answer 3

Just be yourself...and you know what else takes the pressure off.  Ask questions about them and talk about them...that way it takes the focus off of you and if something leads into one of your likes talk about how much you like that thing.  Don't bring in negatives they can quickly drag down a conversation.  

And hanging out over food is good too...I don't know if you want to be alone with this person, but bring along a 3rd wheel, someone that brings out the best in you (and isn't interested in this guy, because it'll turn into a competition) and it'll be easier to converse between the 3 of you and then move up to it just being the 2 of you when you're comfortable.  Hope that helps.

Answer 4

Think about things that you want to talk to him about. Focus on carefully listening to his side of the conversation. Offer your own thoughts. Talk about something that you are both interested in or curious about.

When you start feeling shy, change the topic. Go with the flow.

Answer 5

Im in the same boat as you though i cant give you

a deffinate answer that will help you i'll suggest

something that calms me down!! i think you should

just take deep breaths and tell yourself that it will

be allright!! and that nothing bad will happen!!

and just be yourself if you may be scared because

you may not be yourself!! but im interested to

see some peoples answers to the question!!

Good luck to you!!

Answer 6

ya, stop worrying about making a fool of yourself, it's nothing that can't be solved by laughing along with the others, get it off your mind and it won't happen.

      As for being self conscious and nervous, why is it everyone thinks their the only ones who are !!

      Fact is, other's just "hide" it better. What i learned was, yrs later, you'll kick yourself in the "butt" for it, when you realize not many were any different, you were just so busy paying attention to yourself, that you didn't see it.

      Learn to have fun and laugh at yourself, your "not" so important that others will keep your mistakes in mind long lifes a little to busy and full for that, besides the one thing about others making mistakes or being embarrased, is that it eases others up, let's them know "your human" thats all. And not many loose friends over that, it usually draws other to you, it makes you a comfortable person to be with.