I need to ask my mom an important question, how to bring it up?

Question

I need to ask my mom a VERY important question....you see, I'm in 7th grade, I've been public schooled for K, 1st, and 4th grades, the rest of the time I have been home-schooled. i HATE homeschooling! I felt much better as a public schooler. so I wanted to ask my mom if I could transfer to my public junior high sometime this year. Thing is, my mom has this thing about that being public schooled is not an option till high school. But I want to be with my friends and have a middle school experience. how do I bring up the subject and ask? plus is it ok to transfer during the school year in Knoxville,TN? PLEASE HELP ME!! I NEED an great and do able answer before the end of September.......preferably. Thanks to all who give good answers, this would mean SOOO much to me if I could transfer. more than you can imagine. Thanks.

Answer 1

First I suggest letting your Mom know upfront that there are some things you would love to talk to her about and ask to set up a good time for her. Catch her when she is well rested and in a good mood. Nothing is worse than catching someone in a bad mood or after a long day at work.

Maybe you can set up the rules then that you would love to ask questions and explain them without her interrupting and then after you are done maybe she can go into the other rom and maybe even sleep on the question overnight before answering. Maybe if she has time to think about she will give you a better answer.

Also be sure to state reasons on why you want to go back to school- benefits-etc and leave a tengency in there that if you don't do well or any problems that you will come back to homeschooling.

I wish you the best. Hope it all works out. If you act in a mature way and not whine or cry about it or even beg maybe your Mom will be more willing to consider it.

Answer 2

Be honest.   Tell her how you feel and find out her reasons for homeschooling - you may be surprised.    You'll never know until you talk to her.  

Are you involved in programs outside your home?   My kids are involved in a lot of things like band, film school, swimming, gym classes, gymnastics, dance classes, etc.   I hope you are as well.  If not you may try that instead of actually going to school.  

Ignore the ignorant answers on here that say homeschoolers are socially immature.  Honestly that drives me crazy.  

Yes you can transfer to school whenever you want.  That's not a problem.

Answer 3

Girls start to be very social in about grade 6.  They form little groups and talk about boys and clothes etc.  So how you are feeling is very normal.

The home schooling environment has one huge flaw, which is that most of the children that are homeschooled their entire lives are socially immature.

Tell your mom how you feel.  Most parents homeschool because they want to protect their children from the world.  Think about what her fears might be and come up with some points to address them.  For instance suggest that you will come home for lunch or directly after school.  Promise not to do any extra-curricular activities, etc.  Promise not to get involved with boys, drugs, drinking etc.  Build her trust up in you.  

Is there a subject that she isnt good at teaching?  Tell her you need more instruction in this area and fear you are falling behind.

I hope this works.

Answer 4

Transferring mid-year is not the greatest idea. Why? Well, you haven't had those teachers and haven't heard the information they've taught, had them give the explanations they've given, done the homework they've assigned, etc. You're going to be scrambling to keep up since you'll be starting in the middle of what everybody else has been working on all year.

Another thing to be said: there is no "middle school experience". Not sure who's been telling you that stuff, but it's not like middle school has some aura of its own and special things that don't exist anywhere else. You sit in class most of the day, each year is more homework than the last...

If you want to be with your friends, then make time for your friends and ask your mom to do things with homeschoolers during the day so that you can make some new friends. It sounds like you are very peer-focused and dependent which is actually not a good thing. Besides, who says you'd end up being with your friends? You could end up in a class where you don't know ANY of the kids there while your friends are in another class. Couple that with not having the information your other classmates will have, what sort of experience are you going to have?

I'm sorry I can't be more helpful. My husband teaches jr. high here and his school is fairly representative of jr. highs in our area. Our kids are not going to jr. high. End of story. If my daughter came complaining to me about wanting to go to school to be with her friends, I would tell her that school is actually supposed to be about education, not being with friends, then we'd do more social activities and invite her friends over more.

It sounds to me like you are influenced by your public school friends and "felt better as a public schooler" because you are concerned about being different. That's another reason for you to NOT go to school, so that you can build up a sense of self rather than only thinking of yourself in terms of how others see you or in terms of you being different than others. You ARE different; you always will be, no matter where you do your schooling. Accept it. Focus on making homeschooling a better experience. Life is what you make of it!

Answer 5

Sadez-

"The home schooling environment has one huge flaw, which is that most of the children that are homeschooled their entire lives are socially immature"

Sorry, but i take offence to that!!!

I have been homeschooled my entire life,and I have plenty of friends....homeschooled and otherwise.There are several ways to be a socially active homeschooler,such as local support groups that offer sportsand other activities.....mine even offers debate ( its hard to be a"socially immature" debater....).

"Most parents homeschool because they want to protect their children from the world."

My mother homeschools me and my siblings because she believes that she can do a better job than the public school system.

"Is there a subject that she isnt good at teaching? Tell her you need more instruction in this area and fear you are falling behind."

Many homeschool support groups also offer classes such as highschool chemistry for parents who do not feel that they are up to the job,so this is not a good reason to stop homeschooling......any other reasons you can think of? because I will gladly rebutt them :)

Answer 6

speak patiently, let her know you need help, dont get

agrivated if she wont listen, be prepared for her to say no,

be insistent without acting needy, whiny, or b***thy,

be prepared for the hassles of middle school its not as easy

as you think. especially since you have been homeschooled

since 4th grade. think about why she chose to home school

you

Answer 7

Why do you hate homeschool? Maybe you need to talk to your mom about why she put you in homeschool in the first place.

Answer 8

Best to be very prepared before setting up to someone who has already told you when you will go to public school. Know this will push her buttons since she has already given an answer to when you would go to public school.

Not knowing the reason for her not wanting you to goto public school during Jr. High makes things a little hard on how to approach something of this nature. Try to get information on the teachers and the classes which you could take. Most likely to have the honor classes if you can get into those. If it is too late to get into the honor classes then your mother will most likely not let you go to public school. On some other end it could be getting to the school, if you are able to catch the bus or ride with a friend? Just think of all the things which your mother has or will shoot down with you going to public schools. Main thing is your mother thinks she is doing the best thing for you, even if you do not think so. You should do all the foot work on calling the school and letting them know the situation and if they can send the information to your house. But you already know at high school you will get to go to the public school. Just plan out and know what points you have to go against. Good luck and take care.

Answer 9

Honesty is always the best way to go for everything!!

Answer 10

i always have a hard time bringing up subjects that are inportant or emotional to me during conversation which is why i always find it is best to express myself in a letter. that way you have a chance to write and edit and re-write what you want to say to her. be sure to state the facts. do some research on the internet and hope for the best.

good luck!!

Answer 11

not really up to you sounds like she has made up her mind already join a homeschool group

Answer 12

Give mom a copy of your letter and the responses, AFTER

you've broached the subject. Don't throw any tantrums, just

approach the issue as a serious discussion without emotion.

Answer 13

just go up to her and say you need to tell her something and just tell her

Answer 14

Tell your mom that being a homeschooler is just not working out for you. Tell her that you feel "lonely" sometimes (!!!pile up the guilt!!!) and you wish that you could hang out with your friends more often, at school. Say that a middle school experience would be good for you, you would feel comfortable in situations involving other people and it could up your social self esteem. And, as you said, "it would mean SOOO much to me if I could transfer."

Not sure about Tennessee tho =/

Good luck!!!