I need to find a woman that my husband used to date

Question

My husband recently told me that the girl (woman) that he used to date may have had his child. I need to know if this is true or not. How could I find her?

Answer 1

You could try searching social networking sites like Myspace or Facebook for her. Maybe even try the phonebook.

Answer 2

Find out what her name is and look her up.

Answer 3

Ask him, since it has more to do with him then you?  

Answer 4

the best way for you to do it is to hire a detective, he will do it a lot faster then you would on your own!

Answer 5

why do you need to know? just let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 6

namesdatabase.com

Answer 7

Google, and they have alot of people finder websites you can use that are totally legal. Also you could ask him for names of her old friends too, and you could contact them to find her aswell.

Answer 8

I hate to parrot other people's answers, but why do you need to know? If he doesn't know if she had his child or not, I am assuming that this is something that happened in his distant past. What possible bearing could it have on your current relationship? He is still the same man that you married, something that may or may not have happened in his past will not change that.

Consider the woman's point of view. If she did have his child and didn't contact him about it, there was probably a good reason. Maybe she met someone else who decided to raise the child as his own, and you getting involved would upset their whole family. Maybe she gave the child up for adoption, had an abortion or miscarriage, or some other painful memory that she would rather not revisit.

Since the only possible reason to contact this poor woman would be to either feed or sooth some insecurity or curiosity on your part, leave her alone. If she ever was pregnant with his child, regardless of the outcome, she has already had to live through what was undoubtedly a painful and difficult experience already. Respect her right to privacy, and let it go. If you husband wanted to be involved he would be, does she really need to be rejected by him again?  

Answer 9

Well, if he is not interested in finding her, and she is not interested in finding him...you should leave well enough alone.  Further, unless he just recently found out, you should be concerned with the fact that he has not told you about this before now & the fact that he is not seeking the truth himself.  That gives you a peek into his true character, and although I do not know the whole story of course, does not look favorable on your husband.  

Answer 10

Why do you need to know? Yes, he shoudl be responsible for his child, but that is his deal and not yours. Let him do it. Let it go.

Answer 11

If you know anyone in police force or something like that, they could look her up on file. Google sometimes works. If you have her phone number, type it into google and if it is listed it will show her address.Good Luck=D