I need to know how to not get so angry at my grandma that i start yelling mean things and i regret them later?

Question

my grandma and I yell all the time anymore.we fight about school,me not being there because i have a game,or its over me standing in the wrong spot.i need help because i can't control my words...and it makes me feel bad later..

Answer 1

It seems so easy just to say keep your mouth shut, but I know how old people can get on your nerves at times. Really, it all does come down to keeping your mouth shut. It may seem gruesome but maybe if you think of how you will feel when she is dead and you are at her funeral how important is what you are about to say really? Love her as best you can while she is still here. You sound like you have a conscience. Some things can never be taken back, be careful not to do something you will be guilt ridden over long after she is gone.

Answer 2

You need to learn some respect for others!  Once that is accomplished the yelling and angry hurtful words should cease.

Answer 3

I say a lot of rude things to my mom too. I even hit her once, i was so pissed at what she said to me. I wished I didn't. now when I feel myself getting angry i just take some very deep slow breaths and that works well. I also use loud music to tune her *** out.

Answer 4

Imagine it's the last time you will ever see her, because you never know, it just might be.

Answer 5

I am the exact same way with my parents.. I even went to counseling to try and help control my temper.  I am in my mid 30's... my parents are in their late 70's & are both dilutionally paranoid.  So EVERYTHING is "them" doing something.. trying to kill them, bugging the house, listening to everything,, controlling their minds.. controlling me... etc... it is INSANE.. they could right a fiction novel with the stuff they come up with.   But in consumes them... everything they do is because of "them" they don't leave the house together.. one has to be at home at all times... so my father didn't come to my wedding.  My father disowned me  (only for 3 months) because I bought a house.. "that they made me buy"  it's a piece of sh*t and full of poison.  I cannot control myself when I am with them.. I say the most awful stuff to them... I cry because I hate the fact that they live in fear and thre is nothing I can do to help them.  Paramoid people are alomst impossible to help.. this has been going on for 15 years.. I barely talk to them anymore (still see them once a week, but we barely talk) cuz all we do is scream.  I am accused of being in on it and trying to kill them.  It is awful.  But.. sorry for rambling... going to a counselor is not an awful idea... they give you pointers to be patient.. see things from their side.... plus you can vent about that person to the counselor and maybe control yoruself better when your with your Grandma.  I understand how awful you feel.. I feel the same way.  GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

You need to see a counselor, find out what the real problem is. It sounds like you and she are both projecting (angry about something and take it out on something else).

Answer 7

You need to take a long look at your Grandma and mentally make a list of the wonderful things she does for you and everything about her that you love. The more she's treated with love and respect, the less fighting you will have. It probably just upsets her when you're not where you say you're going to be or she gets lost trying to find you. It's a feeling of panic that she might not find you and something could happen to you. Just love your Grandma with all your love. She won't be here forever and she really needs to know NOW that you love her.