I need to know what to do ?

Question

okay so im 14 and lets just say life has not been good for me so far.. right now i dont really have any friends because i used to suffer from depression and they didnt wanna hear it anymore. i pretty much suck at everything i try. this is the last week of summer and all i do is sit here day after day with no one to talk to and its starting to make me go crazy. i think im starting to get depressed again. im lonely and feel like ive lost myself. i used to be so happy and outgoing like the kind of person everyone wanted to be around and had so many people who care about me. at school im just a loser now and im quiet and shy. im just not happy. i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

well, did you see a doctor for the depression? did he prescribe medication for you? are you still on it? if not, then maybe that is the first thing you should do, see if you need medication. then, maybe you should try and volunteer somewhere. you can help at a hospital, a library, a day care, any place that interests you. you will find that the work you do will be very rewarding, and it will help your self esteem-you will also start to make some new friends. that will also help you on the road to getting better. it is always better to have a purpose in life, instead of just sitting around and feeling bad. i sure hope you find something that you like. good luck.

Answer 2

First off, you don't sound like a loser to me. It sounds like you have depression, which is a serious disorder and can mess up even the most successful people. You might "suck" at things because you feel so bad that you don't put your heart and mind into the things you do.

   You are very hard on yourself - and that's the most troubling thing to read in your post.

    You're 14 and a sophomore!? Wow!

     Please try to seek counselling or talk to your GP. It would be a tragedy for you to go downhill and be so unhappy when there is real help available. :)

Answer 3

well, with school starting soon try to show people that you're different and i'm going to guess that you're starting high school? which means that there are more people to relate to and its not east for everyone to find a hobby, i don't have a specific one either and i'm almost 17 don't feel like you need to impress anyone just try to be your old self and if you can't try to improve who you are today talk to people online at first and then gradually get back into the social life

hope everything works out for you

Answer 4

well i think you should get out more, like to the park or a market and tell them " that's a beautiful top". or " hi how are you". but just be hi bye friends, because you don't know them that much!

Have a good day!

Answer 5

The first problem you have is that you're just sitting there. It's one thing to be bad at whatever you try, but at least then you're TRYING. No one is good at something they absolutely love the first time they try it. (If they tell you they were, they're exaggerating.)

Get outside of yourself and get involved with someone  or something else. There are about ten thousand volunteer jobs out there you can do--from helping elderly people clean their yards to babysitting your neighbor's kids for an hour so their mom can catch a break. GET BUSY. Don't just SIT there. The fastest way to feel like a loser is to ACT like one--if you want to feel like a winner, then ACT like a winner! It really IS that simple. You get what you want because you attract what you ARE!

This is very hard for someone who is 14 to understand, but life is not rosy and beautiful all the time for other people. It's just LIFE. Everyone's is different, nothing is really fair and never will be, and you can't change it or make anything else happen--so once you accept that, you can get on with making YOUR life whatever you want it to be.  It's all your own choice--even when you think you don't have any choices. Even when all doors and windows are closed, you still can CHOOSE how to act about it, or how to feel--no one can control that but YOU.

Want friends? Go FIND some. Literally--go to places where people are and strike up conversations with others. That's how friendships start. By people, just like you, interacting with other people. There are lots of places for someone to go---the park, the library, school events, church, camps, even your relatives' houses in other parts of town. Lots and lots of people you've never met before who don't know your history or what to expect. For all they know, you're that popular person who has this incredible life--and they need to know you!! That is the secret to being popular--you ACT LIKE  YOU'RE POPULAR. Pretty soon, it's no longer an act, because you'll have lots of people who are interested in you.

Don't pose. Don't lie about yourself. Don't TALK about yourself incessantly--ask people about THEMselves--ask about their lives and what they think. I guarantee you'll be more popular than you can imagine in short order. Nothing makes a person more attractive than taking an INTEREST in other people--a genuine, heartfelt interest.

Have a hobby or two--that you can discuss when the time is right. Or that will enable you to open a conversation with someone you don't know. If you want, ask someone you like to TEACH you something. That's another secret--asking the popular people to help you is a fast way to get on their good side.

For instance: help out your neighbor by walking their dog in the park every day. Just to be nice. As you walk the dog, look around you and see who else is walking dogs--and talk to those people about it. It's that sort of give and take that starts up relationships and friendships.

It is not up to someone else to complete you, or to make you happy. That job is yours and yours alone, and always will be. you will have to be your own fan club when you don't have adoring fans waiting in the wings somewhere--and the people who master this trick very early are the ones who have the most confidence and self-assurance later. It might not feel like it right away, but trust me when I tell you that it DOES and CAN happen.

When I was in high school, on the last week of school, we all sat around the lunch tables trying to vote on the yearbook "superlatives" for that year: you know, "Most Popular", "Best Looking", etc. No one could come up with anything for "Most Talented," and I got mad--for FOUR years, I'd worked behind the scenes at all the school plays, sang in the choir, made posters, got A's in art classes, sang in a talent show (even though I was horribly embarrassed! and these jokers couldn't come up with any names? I'd never asked anyone to recognize me--never blew my own horn, never asked for any awards or anything--but when I looked back on it, I'd done a heck of a lot of stuff using my ability to draw and paint. So I thought "what the heck--there's only one more week of school left" and I stood up in front of these bozos and told them they were all full of **** if they didn't see that I was the most talented--and to my utter surprise, they all just nodded their heads and ELECTED ME. Unanimously. It WAS that easy, and it could have been that easy for the previous four years if I'd had the courage to try it.

You can do the same. You can. You can be whatever you want, and define your own self--all you have to do is try it. Don't ever let anyone ELSE'S ideas of you define you or make you feel inadequate.

Go for it.