I need to know what you would suggest!!!?

Question

My sister is getting married next year in september. I, as well as other people have noticed that she's changed quite a bit. How do I tell her w/o offending her???? We have a good relationship, but I just feel like I don't know the words.

Answer 1

More information is needed.  How has she changed?

Answer 2

Unless the change is radical, I wouldn't say anything.  Or I might say, in a private conversation with her, that I am concerned about her and if she is alright.  She's made a big leap in her life, and I'd want her to know that I'm there for her, no matter what.

Answer 3

Let her have her day. Be there for her.

And, if she needs to turn to you later, be still open and available to her. If you have doubts or concerns, if you think maybe he is somehow controlling or guiding her away from her independent self... well, wait it out and be there for her. Dont be distanced or turned off, isolation is the first step to what may eventually be at least uneven or unfair changes in a marriage. He doesnt have to be abusive for there to be something that troubles you that she hasnt seen, yet.

Just dont make her choose between you, or it will be him now and she wont have you there to come back to later if she had to.

Answer 4

What do you mean by "changed?"

If you mean she has grown up, that would be natural as she begins to think about married life.

If you mean scared, that too would be something to expect. You can expect just about any emotion from a bride to be. She's definitely starting early, since she has a year to wait. Maybe she is feeling some indecision, but within the coming year she will resolve that. It's often difficult to realize you will be leaving your family to make your OWN family. Part of us wants to remain someone's little girl.

Be patient with her. I bet she will talk about her feelings sooner or later.

I'm not sure how to tell you what to say without offending her, because you don't really say what the problem is. I'm glad you are close.  

Answer 5

You could still be right. Maybe she is just growing up. Or realising that the things she once wanted and liked seem child like now and her tastes are changing. We all change somethings to a little extent to make the other person happy. Why not just sit down with her and have a heart to heart. Just watch how you word it but ask her how things are and if she has a good relationship with you then she will most probably open up to you. Good luck.  :)

Answer 6

She may just be growing up and maturing.  talk to her privately about the changes you have noticed.  Ask her if she is really doing this because she wants to or if she is being pushed to change.  Be there for her.