I need to stop being insecure?

Question

whenever my boyfriend hangs out with my best friend

we all met at the same time, so technically its alright

for them to hangout as friends. and he has reassured me twice

already that he isnt going to start liking her

and that he likes me a lot

BUT ITS SO HARD TO STOP

how do i get the thought out of my head that something is going to

happen? when im really sure nothing will, but if i keep this up ill probably annoy the poor boy until he leaves.

i just need to stop being lame, but how?

i hate being insecure, but its only when he hangs out with my best friend

what really annoys me though is that i told my best friend twice how much it bothered me and she basically ignored me, so thanks for respecting my feelings!

i think im pmsing, ive been crying all day and im already emotional, i dont want to freak my boyfriend out

im a messssssssssss

Answer 1

hahahhahahah

xhexk this **** out

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Answer 2

Friend, you are being intuitive and not insecure and there is a difference. I feel that you have provided an argument that they are clicking and it seems possible. So, you should keep an eye on that dynamic. However, you may not be able to do much as they may hook up and there may be such a strong attraction that nothing you do will matter one bit.

You need to ask yourself why you so desperately cling to this guy? Believe me, he knows this and is toying with you because he's got control and you don't. So, you have a golden opportunity for growth here and that is your challenge. What to do? Do you start seeing your weakness of clinging to him for what it is and allow that he may go out with your friend? Accepting this as a possibility is a huge growth opportunity and it will serve you well in life as time goes on. Or do you pout and cry and yell at your friend and cling to the boyfriend? The choice is yours.

I guarantee you this--if you fail to learn your lesson in  this case and cry and pout and get mad at your girlfriend, this EXACT same situation will appear over and over until you get the lesson. Mark my words.

Answer 3

Grow up.

Answer 4

I don't think you're being insecure. It's just being aware. You're friend should be more considerate of your feelings. There is no reason why she should be hanging out with your boyfriend!!!!

Answer 5

well i think u should just hang out with ur friend and ur man separately..if ur friend is worth keeping that is .. if she is a bad friend then u really need to find ur self a new one...  

Answer 6

Don't let him know you cried all day you really might freak him out.

You already told them both how you feel LEAVE IT AT THAT.

Now just act normal and happy even if its eating you up.  Go on and be fun and sassy and he won't want your friend.  Moodiness will drive someone away FAST!!

Act like life is great and make it great hang out with other people.  Have fun you only live once.

And if he goes for your friend DROP HER AND HIM LIKE A HOT CAKE!!!!(the jerks)

Until then live a little and let go of the hurt.

Answer 7

look im not gonna be rude like the rest of the jerks that answered but you gotta start trustin ur bf. i mean come on. if u know inside that he wont cheat on then trust urself. if he is the type that would cheat.... then be cautious

gl

Answer 8

Uhmm, honey, take a chill pill. Everything is going to be okay. If he has reassured you, you need to try and take his word for it. If you can't trust him, your relationship isn't going to work out. Tell him that you don't like it when they hang out alone and ask if maybe you can go with next time. And if your best friend really isn't respecting your feelings, than is she really your best?

Good Luck.

Answer 9

...sleep after you sleep everything you thought was important before seems stupid. but you obviously don't trust ur boyfriend or ur friend, and you can't have a good, healthy relationship without trust  

Answer 10

this reminds me of the same situation i went through years ago.

I had a best friend, for years, met at highschool, then i met this girl at work, where my best friend work too, anyways me and this girl dated then got with each other.

My best friend and her started to be best of friends. So she was in your position every single time i hung out with her. It's kind of a different situation, but almost the same, and it's natural for you to feel this way. She never got over it, but what you could do, is have a best guy friend. because besides having your bf as the other opposite gender to vent to, it helps to have another guy around that you're not dating. I think it would help you a lot.

another case scenario is, that your bf may not like her, but she may like him, which i was in that situation. But i did like the girl i was with, so nothing could've happen, and I didn't find her attractive in that way. So your bf may find it the same.  

Answer 11

whoa whoa whoa just chill a little bit. Guys hate girls that r a lot of work/ freak out at the tiniest stuff

Answer 12

your friend isn't much of a friend if she knows you feel this way...whether your right or wrong. Also, through experience...when they insist on "hanging out " even though it makes you uncomfortable, and he's swearing "I would never"...then they already are. TRUST ME ON THIS ONE.The ones people go eeeww, no way, her..I would never...well, cause they already are.

Answer 13

I don't think she's your best friend if she ignored your feelings and kept hanging out with him. In fact, your boyfriend probably means it when he says he likes you a lot but from what it seems, you should be more worried about your "best" friend betraying you because from what you wrote here, it seems she likes your boyfriend whereas your guy is actually taking the time to confirm you like him. Somehow gain some security and see if your friend is really your best friend.