I need ur help......your opinion????

Question

long story short....my daughter father ..tryed to get my cell phone to see who i be talkin to..we haven't be together in 9 months..but anyway i wouldn't let him get it so... he hit me in my face...so my 4 year old daughter called him a (a#@ hole) she get's it from.. tha kids outside...but anyway...so when she said it...he started goin crazy, sayin im ma get u, to her.. then i wouldn't let him get her so he just gave her a nasty look and said..f@#$ her...to my daughter... i said what...he said you know what f@#$ you.. and f@#$ her.......what he said really hurt me & i started cryiing...i'm so confused...bout what he said to our daughter.... i know she shouldn't have said that but you don't curse back at her..like she's one of your friends..... u get me?? cause she really don't know what she's sayin.. she know it's a bad word but she don't really know your not suppose to sat that to anyone.. but we didn't talk for like 2 weeks..but now he comes over acting like nothing happen...when till this day its still hurts... that's tellin me he don't care bout her...and that hurts bad... but he sayin she shouldn't never curse at me....but he grown and she's a liitle girl and he should know better..(he's 23) ..idk....he said he sorry he didn't mean to say that ...but i just can't get over what he said...i think i will never get over what he said... and i know he meant what he said when he said that i can tell.....should i give him a chance by speakin to him again.. and try to get along ..or should i just don't ever speak to him again.....i'm so confused.... cause i think he really does not care about her.. and he even said that a couple times but i'm not going to get into that...what do u think?????????????? what would u do????

Answer 1

Dear mommy,

This is what I would do and I really really suggest YOU do it ASAP I don't know what state are you from but I am sure you can get Help

No matter how you might see it this is Domestic Violence and your baby girl is just Reacting to what she thought it was right

Her reaction was natural despite the words said this is what she hears from her dad so this is how she knows she can get his attention...

Do I make sense?

When Im telling you to get help I mean go to a therapist or call 211 from your home phone you can get lots of help from that resource,

You and your girl need to go to counseling so you can get stronger and be able to manage this man as if he continues to get this way this is not Safe neither for you or your daughter

I am absolutely nobody to judge him but sweetheart I can tell you by experience that not only Violence is hitting but also Verbal and that is What He is doing with your baby girl

I am sure that since you are writing this you have taken a big step of being A Great Mom and that makes you a wholesome lot a woman!!

so don't be scared and get the help you need you won't be dessapointed  You will be stronger and tougher than ever

and you will see next time he might need a supervised visit if he doesn't know how to behave like a proper dad instead of the animal he is behaving....(sorry)

Best luck to you my friend and I promise you can do this!

Karaya

Answer 2

You both must be  brought up in different

environment. Or may be abusive language

when he is in bad temper is means nothing

to him. Your story is nothing compared to some

of the marital  disharmony stories i have come

across.  May be he did not mean what he said

when he was  angry. Watch him his behaver

for some time  whether  he is true.You need to

give him a chance.

Answer 3

i would report him to the police for abusing you, and for one thing, he's young. he's 23 and has a 4 year old ? woah. thats probably why he said that to your daughter, because he's 23 and doesn't understand that you don't talk to a four year old like that. much less, you.

good luck.

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Answer 4

Why was he even trying to get at your phone anyway? That's your space and he shouldn't be trying to get into your life again. The 4 year old really didn't know what she was saying when she called him an @&# hole. I mean she might have known it was bad but it was only cause you were both very threatened. He has a bad attitude and some issues he needs to deal with before he should be able to come back into you and your daughters life. good luck!