I need your help so bad...anyone please

Question

Me and my girlfriend broke up 2 days ago and decided to be friends. We still love each other very much and want to get back together after some time, but want to work on our issues first. She is soon to be 17, im 18, and we are both each others first true love. After being sooo miserable for the past 2 days(she has gone to visit her grandparents with her family so we havent talked) I realized that I cant live without her and I never want anyone else. I have told her that I would like to try again without being friends right before she left but she said that we both need some time away from the intensivness that we had with fighting the past few weeks. What should I do to get back with her faster? I know she is the one and I realize how stupid I was :(

Answer 1

You really do need to give her time to think...when a guy is too needy its seems to push girls away....i know its hard but if you really love her you will give her time away and if she really loves you she will come to back to you

Answer 2

i would give her some time. if you both are meant to be together it will happen. take some time to deal with what ever issues you had, show her how you have learned this. i would then say go in slowly, send cards, flowers just a quick hello i love you. then in time if its true you will be together again. if its not meant to be, better now than married and kids later.  good luck to you.  

Answer 3

awww i broke up with the love of my life 3 days ago i'm 17 hes going to be 21 he had some commitment issues but i regret breaking up with him because theres no one else i would ever want to be with too..

but we talked it over these pass 2 days and we decided the best was to be bestfriends however we dont really dont want eachother to date others but its for the best if someone else came along we just want the other to be happy..

we told eachother look its just bad timing right now we know we're soulmates so we can date other people but making out and having s*x with others is out of the question we can only do that witheachother i know not a normal relationship we have btween eachother but he just needs time..

it sucks to break up with the one you know you love and will be together forever, but talk it out with her and you two will come up with a plan to be somehow together in the end... once she comes back thats when you go over and tell her everything how you feel and what should happen...

best of luck...

i know the feeling but i hoped i helped a bit.

-jeri

Answer 4

Give yourself and her time to be without the intensity of you being together constantly.....in other words give yourselves space and time to focus on your own feeling and interests...I assure you that it will hurt less if you give it adequate time and focus on other things and people....the old adage of " if it was meant to be.........it will be!" also "time helps to dismiss the hurt you feel now!

Answer 5

Give her a little time - don't push her into anything.  You know that you love her and she loves you.  So, just slow down - let her have a little breathing space.   When you do go back with her (and you will), don't argue so much.  Both of you need to grow up a bit - Things will work out for you - just chill.  :)

Answer 6

Ever heard that if you love someone - let them go and if they come back then it was meant to be?  Well that applies here prettty nicely.  I know it sounds harsh, but if you really want to prove to her that you love her, let her go for a while and give her the space that shes asking for. It sounds like it would do the complete opposite, but it really will show her that you care about how she feels.  Trust me.  In the mean time, just try to find things to take your mind off her, go play a game or sport, spend time with other friends and family, anything to distract you, that will help to lessen the pain a little bit.

Hope this helps and good luck!!

Answer 7

maybe you and her need some time like she said. I know its hard but come on, giv her some space then u can get back together

Answer 8

Okay look!

Me and my boyfriend have tiffs, and i believe he is my first true love ... but i am unsure about him because what i hear from him he had TONES of girlfriends!

But we did come to a part where we broke up and he wanted to stay friends, and i couldn't take that because i would still love him sooo much and can't take the fact that we are no more then friends.

I really wanted him back so bad but he said NO! i am putting my foot down and we will not go out. I was so depressed and sad and clingy! and kept on begging him, and this just pushed him further and further away!

So in my susgestion STOP telling her you wante her so bad, because you know she might just want time because it feels rushed, and feels like you haven't learnt your lesson. And that you want her so bad now and not had time to think, your just constantly a mess right now.

The way i think to get her back is to just ACT TOTALLY FINE! Say okay i understand you want time, i have learn't my mistakes and i am sorry and you know what have all the time you need, because to be honest i am fine and all i want is you to be happy (thyat will always get them for them to know you want them to be happy so you put them first) And that my mind is clear and if you want to just go and talk to other people then okay.

She will then feel that you learnt your lesson and your mind is clear, and knowing/ or imaging the fact of you with other people would make her want you more because i wouldnt want to see that happen. Then soon later she would say okay (she would play along) but then evetually say i feel ready to go back

In my experience that worked. When i cried and begged he said no, but when i was happy and fine, he wanted me more.

TIP: Let me just say also this helped, be calm and talk normally like a friend and just basically call like once a week or contact her once week because then she won't forget you and always think of you after wanting you more and more, thats how my bf felt when i kept calling him he just wouldn't get his mind of me.

The saying is, you want something you can't have, and eventually she will want you again

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

PATIENCE.

it'll be soo worth it when you guys get back.

pushing her to get back faster will only drive her away

just wait it out, okey? :]

<3

best of luck.