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Question

Okay so I am about 5 months pregnant and have had some anxiety issues the whole time which don't allow me to work unless I'm on meds which are basically impossible when pregnant.. My husband has been very stressed and I am looking for a job because I have realized its time to just suck it up and help while I still can even if its just a little extra income for a couple of months, then after the baby comes we have agreed I will work part time in the mornings and he will stay on 2nd shift so we dont have to pay for a sitter. But, I feel as though the stress is coming between us with my anxiety disorder and him feeling like he has to work 80 hours a week to make all of the bills.. I know it has nothing to do with my physically because we've talked about it before about whether he was still attracted and he said he was even more attracted to me now that I was carrying his baby girl.. But I would like to do something nice for him either at home or what not.. I wish I had a job offer because that would be a great ice breaker to celebrate.. Any ideas on what I should do? Thanks in advance ladies!

Answer 1

It's hard to get a job when you are pregnant because employers don't want to take on the liability.  Try to find something you can do from home and then you don't have to leave your newborns in a few months either.  As far as the romance issue is concerned- set up the scene at home as often as possible.  Fresh garden flowers, candlelight, a bubble bath and a massage might make him unstressed. But chances are; if he's a first time dad-to-be, he will stress some, even if there's plenty of money.  His life is about to change- FOREVER- is looming in his mind.  Everything will be ok.  Try some chamomile tea and ask your doctor if he's ok with you taking St. John's Wort for anxiety.  Good luck and congrats on your baby girl.  

Answer 2

You know, you are just a sweet heart. Anything you do will be just fine. I hope others are learning from this.

Answer 3

congrats on the baby, and i'm sorry you're having such a rough time, have you tried looking for a job you can do at home? that would help you, as far as doing something for your hubby, cook him a nice dinner, let him choose the movie and help him relax, if he's working a lot of hours , a nice relaxing evening would be very nice for him

Answer 4

Fix him one of his fav meals (if you can stomach it). A nice "thank you" card would be nice. And call to leave messages on his phone to let him know you are thinking about him. Try not to spend a lot b/c he might get mad about that. Good luck.  

Answer 5

Hi and congrats!

I'm not sure I totally understand the question, but if money problems are adding to your stress, then I do think you need to place a high priority on helping with income.  There are all sorts of ways to do this that may not involve leaving you home.  For example, try going to hotjobs or monster and finding jobs where you can type at home.  I know 2 pregnant women who are taking a quick course in medical transcription.  This is another option.  It might be boring, but it pays well, you can set your own hours and do it from home.

Also, some people are offering pet boarding services on craigslist.  This might be a lot of fun and minimal work.

I just think from reading this that this is the thing that would reduce stress (and probably anxiety, as well).