I never get answers to this no matter how many times I ask...please help me?

Question

For two years I had been trying to be friends with this girl. She's a halfday student so she doesn't know a lot of people at school which is good becasue this way I don't get jealous becasue she's not close with anyone. Last year we finally became friends. We never have sleepovers and when we do hang out, it's never one on one her best friend is always with us which is fine I adore them both.

This year we have no classes together and I saw her once in the hallway and I told her to wait for me after a certain period so we could walk together (we'll see if that happens tomorrow). Throughout the two years that I've known her, Ive had an off/on crush on her. Right now it's 'on'. I don't know waht to do I'm so confused. She isn't g*y but she may think i am, only becasue a rumor she heard years ago that she never brought up with me and I never brought up with her.

I want to hang out with her or something but I just am so confused. She doesn't seem to be making an effort to see me, but we were really close last year. It's also only the third day of school.

ANother thing, I don't want to do anything sexual with her. Just maybe kiss her. And when we walked together once in the hallway I really wanted to hold her hand.

I miss her but I'm afraid to be with her because right now the crush is 'on'. Just help. I need advice whenever I ask this no one answers me.

Answer 1

Its understandable that you would feel nervous around your friend.... a crush is like that ...

You seem to be a little anxious - there is no need to feel this way...

Its like you said-- its only the third day...

Maybe her schedule is such that she doesn't simply have as much time ... do not feel as though it is the end of the world

There is a couple of things you could do if you wanted ... Find out her likes and dislikes.... See if there is any kind of extra-curricular activities at the school that you both like to do.... maybe you could meet up with her for study hall or during lunch break

after awhile you might even be able to get her E-mail or invite her on a chat room ...possibly a cell phone number

{ BUT ALL OF THIS HAS TO BE TAKEN VERY SLOWLY }

Whatever you do- do not push her too far too fast ... in fact, you could let her determine the pace  -- don't press it { you can let her think it was her idea }  

Do not concern yourself with what others might think  -

When we start to worry about what others might say we start to

become like sheep and follow the flock

Be yourself -- that is what is most important

{ it is my understanding that she likes your friendship too -

  otherwise she would have left already }

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Answer 2

You can't make someone love you

even if you love them

this is your answer

Jesus loves us

He wants our love

But He can't force love on you

You have to come to Him to receive His love

Just like that girl has to love you

If she doesn't then you have to find someone that does

Just like Jesus has to find people that are willing to love Him back

Now you know how Jesus feels

It hurts and it hurts bad Ang

Answer 3

You can tell her how you feel (maybe tone it down some), but be prepared for rejection. Also be prepared to be outed by her to everyone (doesn't seem like you are out yet) if she doesn't feel the same. It's a hard road, but it will get easier to find people to reciprocate your feelings as you get older.  

Answer 4

i would say just for now just hang with her whenever you can and dont make her think that you are like obsessed with her (im not saying you are) just like say hi in the halls and just be friend like and after a while of hanging with her maybe bring it up but dont like come on to strong cause you dont want her to be weird around you!! just give it some time i think it will come around!!!

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well, just ask her. There's no way of finding out unless you ask.

Answer 6

wow i have the same problem this year as well and i love this kid.. it hurts so bad to see him hanging out with other people and not me. Last year we were VERY close and now we never see each other.

The part that sucks the most is I'm pretty sure its never going to be the same and i know he doesn't love me back so there's no chance anymore. When we do see each other in the halls i want so badly to just hug him and tell him how i feel but i know it would probably just make it worse. all the beautiful times we had are never going to happen again... I'm loosing him and its never going to be the same.

Answer 7

*picks up coffee, takes a sip* Mmm. Ok.

Firstly, how old are you? (Im 18 so Im not very good at judging ages sometimes, you sound younger than me though)

Well Im asking age, becuase it is very important when it comes to knowing or even accepting who you are, just know for sure who you are and what you want.

But, hypthetically speaking, lets say you are. And what you want is your friend. This is clearly not a match made in heaven, she doesnt sound bi (let alone lez) to me. But if you are close and she does have a soft spot for you there is no harm in trying. You just also seem scared and you dont want to risk your friendship. So try very subtly (i.e. hints, flirting, touching) to find out if she may potentially be attracted to you.  

Answer 8

So hang out with her, ask her if she wants to go do anything with you. You can't force a relation. She must warm up to you and....anyway I just have to ask but are you sure your g*y, if any doubt lingers then maybe you should reexamine your life, and yes I am an a*****e for asking but sometimes you need be to help some one realize something.