I never go out help please?

Question

I have a few close friends maybe 5 and no more, and i never go out my house im only 17 and even my perants have started telling me i need to go out more. I have no self confidence so i am to afraid to knock at there door or call them, the whole summer holidays i left the house twice, im not fat or anything or nasty to people, people just seem to hate me for no reason. can anyone give me advice on how to make more friends and get more self confidence?

Answer 1

I'm pretty much the same way. I have really bad social anxiety and no self-esteem. I never go out and am lonely all the time. It sucks.

Sorry I don't have any advice...and I'm not saying you have social anxiety, I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone :) and also that people probably don't hate you like you think they do. I know I feel that way too but if you're a nice person there's no reason for anyone to hate you. It's almost certainly just in your head.

Answer 2

Hi! Well that's a good way to start any conversation...now all you have to do is meet some people to talk to. Try joining a club of some kind, that way you can actually meet people that have the same interests as you do.  It is always more comfortable to talk to people if you share a common interest so you have something to talk about.  I personally hate small-talk! Your self-confidence will come in time, unfortunately there are no quick fixes for this problem. Start slow, and don't rush your relationships. Remember, you come in this world alone and you will someday leave this world alone, you are considered very lucky if you find only one very good friend to make this journey with.  Many many people live their whole lives not having any true friends, or love relationships, so don't feel alone. You have many years to develop a close friendship or love. Take it slow, be yourself and I'm hopeful that someone will sit up and take notice of you and all that you have to offer! One day at a time...one step at a time, they won't come knocking at your door, so get out the yellowpages and look for a club doing something that you enjoy!

Answer 3

In order to have more self-confidence, you need to believe more in yourself. Have the "I can do it" attitude. Don't ever doubt yourself! In order to make more friends, you have to be more outgoing. Call up someone that you usually hang out with and invite them over to your house. Then, watch a movie so that (if you want) you don't have to talk much.

Answer 4

Why are you so mad avatar?

In order to make true friends you must first be a friend. I'm not sure about you but I'm shy beyond all normality! So for me It's really hard to talk to people, much less try to become their friend! But it can be done!

First comes the confidence issue. Build your self esteem and you'll find it easier to make friends. My first (and best) friend is the one who got me out of my shell and now I've found more. Think of things that you're good at. For me I had to think of even the small things! But you do have something to offer to somebody, everyone does. Take the initiative and offer proof of friendship to someone! Practice your good qualities, that's what attracts people. And don't be insistent or resentful if someone doesn't exactly respond. Just keep at it! The best way is experience, try to improve things and be friendly ALL the time. Someone will defiantly respond.

Hope I helped... (that's what I did anyway...) Thanks!