I never met her but i miss her !!!

Question

My mother died when i was a couple months old. It's around the time now that she died. And i never felt sad before, because to me i never met her, to me i didn't no her. But this year i feel soo sad, and i don't no why? I'm missing a woman that i never met before, a woman that i don't know ! Why have i only realized that i miss her this year? I don't understand it at all. i'm 15 and it's making me feel so depressed. please help x*x

Answer 1

It is perfectly normal.  I'm sorry that you never got to know her.  You are at an age when you really need a mom.  Turn the the other women in your family who can be good role models.  Let them know how you are feeling.

Answer 2

Sweetie I think I know how you feel. I was put up for adoption as a baby (I'm 34 now) and have never known my birth mother. My adoptive mum who raised me died 3 years ago, so throughout my life I have grieved the loss of one, now two mothers. I have realised over time that it is ok, if not healthy to allow yourself to grieve your loss. It can harm you to llet it build up inside. Have you got a friend or family member to confide in? If not, there is plenty of help available to you through councillors, and I really believe you need to talk through your feelings with someone who can comfort you and help you through this difficult time. Of course you miss her now, it's perfectly normal, you are a young woman embarking on the most exciting and terrifying journey of life; becoming an adult. You need the advice and guidance now, more than ever before, of an older, nuturing woman, and you feel her loss more because of that. Please don't be depressed, it's ok to be sad, but your Mum would want you to be living your life to the best of your potential and enjoying life, that is why she had you.  

Answer 3

Welcome to the wonderful world of GROWING UP! You are becoming more aware of your feelings and inner soul that helps you make rash decisions. It's all part of the maturity process. You are moving from adolescence to adulthood. Congratulations!

Answer 4

My sister is in the same boat. her mother died in childbirth, and she always misses her.

for a girl its hard not to have a mother, someone to look up to and help them. now you are going through that time in your life were things are really changing. i know it was hard for my sister not have some one to talk to about the things mothers and daughters do, or someone to take her shopping.

its very normal to miss her and wonder what she was like, and how she acted etc. and no matter who you have in your life you will miss your mum.

talk to your family and get them to tell you about her and maybe in some way you can have a connection with her. even visit her grave and talk to her, and tell her things that are going on.

i really hope your ok and you can some way come to terms with it.

if you ever need to talk to someone you can contact me and i am willing to listen.

Answer 5

Because maybe you are getting close to the age age died. Or you are realizing that you want someone to connect with other then your dad or whoever is raising you. I am sorry you are depressed. Is there someone you can talk to? I think talking it out would be a great stress reliever.

Answer 6

youre getting older and youre starting to understand things. thats all it is. and just becuase you never met her, something inside you still misses her. its just a bond.

Answer 7

talk  to  someone

Answer 8

i'm really sorry about ur mum.

and to answer ur question, i think that at 15, it's the age where girls most need their mums.

well anyways, the reason that u don't know ur mum is the reason ur sad.

ur sad because u never got to know that person who was the most important person in ur life.

but u shouldn't stop thinking about her, she probably would've liked for u to remember her.

i hope u get happier.

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Answer 9

You are not missing "a woman," you are missing your mother. Even if you never had the opportunity to know her, that fact doesn't change. It's especially common to feel sad near her birthday ot near the time that she passed away.

At 15, you are starting to think like a woman instead of a child. Not having her available to help you through this transition is painful, to say the least. It can bring our feelings of loneliness, anger, guilt (about being angry) and a whole host of other emotions.

My best advice? Fins a woman you respect and talk to her. This can be your grandmother, aunt, cousin or older friend.  Tell her how you are feeling and let her mother you a bit.

All the best to you hun.