I often think of putting a hosepipe in my car exhaust and into the car ending it but always change my mind?

Question

am i mental for thinking this everything seems to get to me i carnt do anything write my wife screams at the kids all day and i get the backlash the kids dont tidy up dsont do anything am always thinking of ending it but i know its not what i want so am i mad or what

Answer 1

Contact Samaritans.

Go with your wife to Relate.

Share in the disciplining of your children

Answer 2

I'm not trying to put you down, but do you ever think about how everyone else would feel if you did go through with it. It's all well and good for you to take your life and end all of your pain, but what about the people you leave behind?? Should they end it because the greiving process will be all too hard for them too???? Think about it. We are the creators of our own happiness. Work out exactly what is making you unhappy and fix the problem. Either walk away from it or work on it, don't take the easy road, that's never the right answer!!!

Answer 3

no it is just an idea of escape...a way out of what seems to be chaos and stress.  try to change the way you live i.e. if the kids have no structure like bedtimes, sitting down together at meal times etc., going out to the park or for a walk and so on.  most importantly you should perhaps have some quality time with your wife, supprise her with a small gift, take her out.  Discuss how you feel with her, but most importantly, listen to what she has to say.  Basically, live and plan together, do not live in a void.  anything is better than nothing.

Answer 4

I can't tell from your name if you are male or female so forgive me for assuming you're female......If you're male, just adjust my comments to something a man could do rather than a female.

I think a lot of people get frustrated to the point of feeling as you do.  Most just aren't willing to be so upfront in admitting it.  There is a part deep inside of you that knows there is still a lot of good in this world.....that you love your kids (even when they don't tidy up) and most of all, that tomorrow is another day and another chance.  Kids grow up very quickly and the day will come when they move out that you wish they were at home making a mess!

When you feel that kind of despair and frustration, try to take a break.  Find someone to come and stay with the kids for a day or two and go do something for you......a night away, a massage, a pedicure and manicure, join a gym like Curves (exercise can be a great physical and emotional healer).  Also, if you believe in prayer, ask God to comfort you and give you peace and patience to deal with all that is happening and draw strength from Him to help get you through.

Answer 5

You are not alone and telling yourself that you are weird to have these thoughts will only exhaust you more (no pun intended) - Try and hold it together...

Title: R.E.M. - Everybody Hurts lyrics

When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,

When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on

Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along

When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)

If you feel like letting go, (hold on)

When you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on

'Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends

Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand

If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,

When you think you've had too much of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts sometimes,

Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes

And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on

Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on

Everybody hurts. You are not alone

Answer 6

Be a dad and grow some balls. Show them what a father is all about. if you end your life you will fuckup the life of your family and close ones. Think about other people, there is more to life then that.

I was going through a very tough phase for 2 weeks i lost my car, my job was hindered, my gf treated me like ****, she was pregnant and my family was having troubles. Never ever i would end it by suicide.

Seriously keep ya chin up mate.

Answer 7

Life is hard sometimes but maybe you should slow down and take the good times in like the smiles and loves the kids give you.

And if you think about it again remember the kids. Do you Love them? I had an Uncle kill himself when I was younger and it still effects me to this day.

And also try to get help for depression. Maybe that will help out to.

Answer 8

You just cant get enough of corrie to end it other wise you wont see next weeks episode!! be a man anyway and push on!!

Answer 9

Listen man, suicide is never the answer.  Is is bad that you think about killing yourself, but it is good that you keep putting it off.  You want a reason for living and that is good.  You really need to talk to your wife.  She sounds like the controlling type and you sound like a quiet, laid back kind of feller.  There aint nothing wrong about being like that, i know cause im that same type of person.  But times come when quiet people have to speak up and let everyone else know how they feel.  I use to put up with quite a lot of c**p from people. I let them run over me and they knew that i would never stand up, so they kept taking advantage of me. Recently, i found out that my fiance of 3 years has been talking to another guy through text messages, and she has talked about things with that guy that she should have never allowed to be said. I have been really hurt and betrayed, and in past situations similar to these, i have kept quiet about it and done nothing. Before, i figured that things would blow over and eventually go back to normal, but problems always kept turning up. Now,   I have stood up to this particular situation and slammed my foot down.  I have gotten a good response from my actions.  At first, she wanted things to go back to normal right away, because she knew my nature and that i would probably let it blow over. I have stood my ground and she now knows the seriousness of the situation.  If i had went right back to her as soon as i found out about the messaging, i would have been miserable and she would have kept on taking me for granted. Since i firmly stood up and took charge of things, i now have control over how we will proceed on with the relationship.  Im not telling you all of this to get sympathy. I realize that you have got problems of your own. what im saying, is that you need to talk to your wife and let her know how you feel about her yelling at you and taking out her frustrations on you.  You are gonna have to stand up and bite back when she begins to hammer you.  Im not saying to start beating her, but there are times when women have to be reminded that they do not call all of the shots. It might be frustrating your wife that you are quiet. She might see it as a sign of weakness.  I know that is hard to act like someone you are not, it has been hard for me to act like i have been towards my girlfriend, but you deserve more respect than you are getting.  But in order to get respect, you must stand up and demand it.  You are the father. You must take charge of your kids and make them do their chores. Do not be afraid to punish them.  You are their father and they will respect you in the long run for being alittle strict on them.  It sounds like your wife is getting angry because she has to make them do everything and she might feel that you do not care either way.  Stand up and be heard.  This is your family, you can do what it takes.  Do not be afraid of looking like a bad guy for making your kids behave.  You are in charge of them, so they should mind you and their mother.  I know that alot of experts today say that whipping a kid could cause emotional damage or whatever, but if you will look at the world today versus in the past, crime rates were lower and this world was a better place.  Kids use to be taught to love, respect, and fear their parents. Today without the whippings goin on, they have nothing to fear form their parents but words.  Im not saying beat them till they bleed, but a good solid smack across the butt wouldnt hurt anything to keep them reminded who is in control.  Look, it is alright for you to feel the way you do right now. Everyone loses hope from time to time, but you must deal with those feelings of helplessness by taking control of the situation. I know that i am making it sound easy, and i know that it is the furtherest thing from easy, but it must be done in order for things to get better. Show your wife that you are more than a meek, quiet guy.  Being meek is a good quality, more people should be this way, but they are not and that is why meekness should be backed up by strength. You can do this man. Hang in there and remember who you are.  You are the father. Hope ive helped alittle. Again, i know it wont be easy, but you can do it. Ive got faith in you. If ye need any other help let me know.  Be strong.

Answer 10

Sorry dude but having kids means that suicide is no longer an option. I think you should try and talk to your wife. As someone that is also in a relationship I know that most couples sometimes have no idea how the other person is feeling. She might be feeling the same but venting in a different way. Seriously, try talking to her.  

Answer 11

First to Puppysyn....he said his WIFE in the question!!

Don't do that mate....we all feel maxed out with stress , wife , kids, bills etc....it gets better. You need to try to control the kids more and spend time out with your wife together....no kids. If you cannot handle it just think how bad it would be for your kids without a father. God bless you and your family and keep your chin up mate.

Best wishes

Answer 12

You are mad because cars now have catolitic converters and don't do the job.

But i do think you should talk to your dr