I overheard my sister's fiance say...?

Question

he came over and my sister wasnt home,he was talking on the phone and i overheard him say to his friend or whatever, my sister is just an accessory, since she is really pretty. but if i tell my sister she wont believe me. should i tell it to her or is it nothing serious.if i should how do i tell it to her?

Answer 1

I would advice you to tell everything to your sister. Its your responsibility to save her life, but its upto your sister to beleive you or not.. I had almost similar experience 3 months ago.. My best friend's fiance was talking the same to his friends and I heard that. When I told this to my friend, she didn't beleive me and there was a snow war between us during that time... But eventually my friend started to notice her fiance carefully after my warning, so one day she found his faults. Now they have seperated and my friend is escaped fron a tragedy. The snow war between us is also over now!

Best of luck!!!

Answer 2

Well I had a best friend thats gf was cheating on him and wen I told him he told me that he didnt care what I said he was still gonna date her I am not saying NOT to tell her but there is gonna be a c**p load of drama if you do and you are gonna get hurt in the process.

Answer 3

I agree, it's serious, especially if they are engaged.  You are right, your sister won't believe you.  That is always the way it is when you try and tell someone something bad about who they are dating/engaged to.  You do need to tell her, so that she knows.  If you don't, it will bother YOU.  Plus, what if she doesn't listen to you at first, but things start to happen when she's with him that make her realize you could be telling the truth?  She deserves to know.  And you are her sister.    

Answer 4

keep your mouth shut!

Answer 5

i think you

should tell her

and say umm i'm not

really sure to take it serious

i just wanted to let you know

or something like that

Answer 6

My advise is to tell her, if i were you I would feel it was a moral responsibility to tell her what I heard, then leave it to her to do with it what she will; at least your conscience  would be clear and you would known that you did your best to have your sisters back.  

Answer 7

Just tell her what you heard and then tell her that she doesn't have to believe you but if she doesn't trust her own sibling it's basically her own fault.  Tell her you gave her the warning now it's her turn to act on it.

Yeah it's serious.  He's likely to control her and cheat on her.  

Answer 8

This is very tricky, because it's possible that if he was talking to a friend he may have just been trying to act all "cool" with his buddy, like his wedding doesn't matter that much.  How does he treat your sister otherwise?  Usually if a guy really believes a girl is just an accessory or a trophy, he'll treat her like one.  But if their relationship seems healthy and he seems to value her opinions and thoughts, then it's probably just him acting like a macho jerk with his friends.

If you have seen him acting like he doesn't value her as more than a pretty face, then you may want to figure out a way to raise that concern.  Rather than go to your sister first, maybe talk to your parents about it and see if they have the same concerns you do.  Just don't try to intervene all at once, because then she'll feel like you're ganging up on her and get defensive and not listen.

I don't have any good advice as to what to say or how, as I don't know anythign about your relationship with your sister.  Maybe just tell her that you sometimes get the vibe like her fiance isn't really interested in her thoughts and opinions, and just treats her like a pretty face or a trophy, and that worries you because you know she's so much more than that and you want to make sure he values her and treats her right.  I do know that she may not want to hear what you have to say, and may not believe you.  IF that's the case, then you have to let her make her own choices, and if she ends up making a mistake with this guy then there's not much you can do.  The best thing you can do in that situation is just support her and be there for her no matter what.

Fact is, she's an adult, and she's going to make the choice she wants to make.  If the marriage falls apart, she may come to you and ask why nobody warned her, but really, there's not much you can say.