I push people away please help

Question

i dont want to but i find i always push people out of my life, i loose friends because of this, and i feel angry but i dont know why...no stupid answers please i really need help

Answer 1

girl, u not the only one!

go to my Q&A. People ask those questions and i do too.

but i really cant tell you. that's just ur personality and its real hard, i know.

Answer 2

Ok, now that  you are aware of it, stop doing it. Seek out a solution before you end up alone my friend. Been there done that.

Answer 3

Here is your answer. You push people away because you do not love yourself enough. And you are afraid that others will see the flaws in you that you see in yourself--if they get too close to you. You realize that the minute others get too close to you--they will know you--and see you for all your flaws, which you assume they will not accept. However, most people will accept any flaws you may have because they realize that they have their own flaws. Let them get close to you. Let them see your inner self. Let them stay friends with you, or leave and go their way. But do not reject their friendships because you assume they will not like you when they get to know you. You will be surprised to find that there is always someone out there who will like you--because you are like them. But if you don't let them get close enough to find this out, you will never know. Opening up is hard. But worth it! Go for it...with everyone who will give you the chance, and you will find that special person who is just for you! Good luck!

Answer 4

You know there is a saying in Turkish:

The one who runs gets catched.

So dont run after people so they will run after you.

Answer 5

IMO, you need to lose (or control) your fear of being hurt or rejected.

This is a very common cause of the behavior you describe. Many times, it is subconscious, so you are not fully aware of your motivations.

You need to get in touch with those fears and get some control over them. Perhaps counseling or talking with someone you trust will help.

I wish you the best of luck with this.