I really dont get along with my family?

Question

every timee me or any of mysiblingss do anything wrong my mom always tries to playvictimm. Like she will saw that she would be beaten if she acted like us and she always calls me aretardd,idiott, orstupidd. When she talks to me i try as hard as i can not to cry and when she leaves the room and i just start crying . It makes me sad when my sister comes up to me and says sister dntt cry i love you, (and she is olny 4) with a sad look in her eyes. I feel like a mistake child and like shedoesn'tt really want me there. how can i stand up to her

Answer 1

im so sorry to hear this but i know it happens to alot of children and i cant tell u how sorry i am! I wish i could tell you to come live with me that im not an abuser of any kind!,, i wish i could come get u and take u away from your pain and standing up to her isnt going to help you, Calling Children Services will help tho,, record her an take it to your nearest welfare office or have them come to the house to speak to u, she wont ever be able to touch u,,, you have the right! its your right! Children arent suppose to be abused mentally or physcially!! if u need help please instant message me and i'll try to do what i can to help u

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take care

bonnie j

Answer 2

hey, my mother was the same way. she always blamed me for everything thank Godness i went off to college besides God dat was my refuge. Some mothers, like ur mom n my mom, are verbally cruel and abusive but they dont mean to hurt us. just dont listen to her brush it off ur shoulders and always think tomorrow will b better. it will also help if u sat down with her and express ur feelings. ***

Good luck

Answer 3

I'm not sure exactly how you should stand up to her, but I wanted to point out something very important that you said, "she tries to play the victim". That could be very true. It seems as though your mum is treating you the way her parents treated her. She hasn't learned from the mistakes her parents made and still feels like the victim of abuse. Passing that abuse down to her own children is not right

'FreedoM' made a few good points & I agree with the last one about sit down & talk to her.

When your mum is in a gentler mood you could get her to open up about her parents, she could tell you some stories about her parents & how she grew up. Let her know how you feel about being called those horrible names.

She might understand, because I bet those names are what she felt like when her parents were horrible to her.

Be good to yourself .

Answer 4

don't cry!!!! don't take it seriouly whatever your mom say to you!! you know what i think that even though whatever she say to you she still love you!!! when she say something bad ignore it don't take it seriouly!! the more you take it seriouly the more you will cry!!! play games, read, go outside and have fun!! life is to have fun not cry!!!  be nice to her all the time and believe me she will talk to you nicely all of the time!! try it it will work!!!! good luck!! and DON'T CRY!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!