I really hate myself....(depressed)?

Question

I really do. I mean people don't seem to like me because I am annoying. I always talk really loud and act annoying. I care soooo much about what everyone thinks of me. I really do. When I just walk around I always worry what they are thinking and I am extremely paranoid. I worry about every single thing. I get super super nervous when I talk to anyone and I am really really shy. I just wish I could be chill and calm and not care what other people think. But I can't. I also can never just be myself and be relaxed. I wish I could just not always be so nervous and scared of people. So people would like me. I am really insecure and I wish I was confident. I try so very hard to just stop and try to not worry about what others thing and just be confident but I really really can't. I just want to live life and be happy and have good friends I can have fun with. But I cant. This is ruining my life. I am so depressed. What can I do? Can someone please help me

Answer 1

It's possible that you have Social Anxiety Disorder, something which is actually very common.  

"Social anxiety disorder, also known as social anxiety or social phobia, is an intense fear of social situations. This fear arises when the individual believes that they may be judged, scrutinized or humiliated by others. The anxiety can be specific to one social situation or can be more general in nature. Feelings of fear, shame and embarrassment are common. It should not be confused with being shy or shyness."

Check out the websites I put in sources and see if anything there is helpful to you.

Answer 2

Mary, you're just over thinking things. I really think you just need to talk to someone about all of this stuff. I know what you're going through right now. Trust me, it will pass. You can contact me if you wanna talk about this or anything else. [e-mail]. or AIM - proffibj .

I hope to hear from you, but if I don't, good luck!

Answer 3

Just calm down. try to put out thoughts of what other people think. The only person that matters is you. Just try to relax and take a look at the good things about you. And if you think your loud and annoying just try to calm down around people. when your around them just try to put out the fact that they're there and be yourself, like you are around family and parents. I went through something like you too. I could neverr act myself around people cause i thought they would think i was boring so i always acted goofy and made a fool of myself. I realized then that the fake me was worse than the real me. I know how you feel and i just tried to think of people the same way i do family and it helped me. Try this and be yourself. if you need help you can IM me on yahoo at bassist910 or email me at [e-mail] or my AIM is thecanklemeister. just say this is whatever your name is from yahoo answers