I really like him, but his EX is such a PROBLEM...?

Question

He has an ex hes been with for a year on and off.

He says they fight alot, and he just isnt happy with her anymore.. They been broken up going on the 2nd week now, and we been talking for 4months already. He says he was getting over her while he was with her. He says he just wants to be friends for now, and he doesnt want to hurt her, so hes taking things slowly.

They live like a minute from eachother, we live about 5mins car and 30mins walking. His cousin is bestfriends with her, and she hates me. I dont want them talking at all but thats never going to happen. He says he even has to give her rides to shcool because hes giving rides to his cousin.

Basically hes trapped, hes not going to stop talking to her im guessing and thats what i want from him. There broken up but they still talk, and they still hang out and stuff. I mean what do i do? do i just accept this, even if were going out?

What do i do?

What do i tell him?

Answer 1

F him really good. nop dont accpet that that's BS! its either you or her. come on gal! if he REALLY likes you he'l avoid her, give her up, keep distance.  

Answer 2

The same thing happened with me and my girlfriend. We ended up both not talking to our ex's and it has been the best not having to fight about them and stuff. What I would do it get really mad at him, and tell him to stop talking to her. If he doesnt then he really isnt thinking about you and is just thinking about himself, make him scared to lose you and if he isnt scared, he isnt worth it.

Answer 3

You can tell him your not very comfortable with him talking to her,

Or you can stay still and not do anything if your scared that he's gonna

get mad, but my choice would be to....

1. Tell him I don't like her

2. Ask him " Why does your cousin hate me?"

3. Just tell him you wanna walk to school with him,

so that he might get away from his ex and your cousin,

4. Tell him to get away from her

5. Get mad at him, yell at him, tell him everything o.o,

get mad AT the ex, tell that disgusting thing to back off,

and fix things o.o not very nice but it would work for me o.o

Ya' know stuff like that,

Hope this helps ;-)

Answer 4

just tell him "me or her" if he picks her it obvious he still has feellings for her, just leave him before he cheats on you with her. because iam pretty sure she's trying to do something with him just to get you mad or something.

Answer 5

Just tell him how you feel.

Answer 6

tell him how you feel about it

he can only try n fix things if he knows how you feel  

Answer 7

Tell him everything.

Answer 8

tsk. no! thats not a good thing girl. they can end up getting back to each other. well.. if he loves you more he will stop talking to the girl. well he has the decision if he wants to hang out with the girl or what. i mean, if he loves you he will follow you and forget about that w***e. i mean that girl. and i suggest you to make him choose. if it is killing you thinking that he's talking to the girl then tell him you want to end things up. cause who knows.. they might really end up getting back together. and i can tell that he's using you to forget that w***e i mean that girl! and thats not a good thing honey. thats just stupid. and if he hates his ex he shouldnt be talking to her and hanging out with her.

you deserve some one special hun. thats just plain stupid. make him choose! as a girl like me too it would kill me to think that my bf was talking to her ex!? its best you tell him ok? goodluck.

and oh. his cousin hate you for some obvious reason. and you dont need her too! you dont need the two of them. just tell your man ok????

gambatte!!!

Answer 9

If you two are together, and it's a serious thing, not just casual dating or whatever... don't let that happen. Explain to him how you feel, and, if  he can't let go of her, then maybe he shouldn't be with you.  

Answer 10

What a line of BS he's handing you! "...just wants to be friends for now, doesn't want to hurt her, taking things slowly" does NOT sound like an ex to me! He gives her rides to school because he's still seeing her, he is not trapped in any way, and they may be broken up but they're still right in the thick of their relationship and have no plans to change. Nothing you can do about it and you don't tell hm anything his mind is made up. All you can do is move on.

Answer 11

even if yall do get together...there still gonna talk...what it looks like he still has feelings for her...not trying to be mean or anything but it seems like your his back up plan...jus tell him whats on your mind...and hes waisting your time  

Answer 12

Do you wanna be the re-bound girl?  d**n, back off.  Let him work it out and move on.  If he wants you he'll come get you, but when he is ready.