I really like my best friend, but she loves someone else...?

Question

Hey Everyone, I really like my best friend. I am a guy and she is the closest person to me. We know everything about each other. She always comes to me before her girl friends for advice. Even about girl problems I'm always the first to know. We always joke around and whenever we have to go we say "I love you." We always tell each other we care about each other and stuff. And we flirt a ton too. But she has been in love with this guy for about a year, even though they only were dating for a month or too. He claims he loves her too but he is always flirting with other girls and he lied to my best friend about not liking these girls. I helped her through all of these situations and stuff but she still doesn't like me, even though we hug every time we see each other (like 20 times a day, haha). How can I make her notice me, even though I don't want to ruin her current relationship? Thanks a million!

Answer 1

all i will say is, i am in this situation, but i am the girl lol... i have to say tho, the guy i luv is being distant and not that affectionate, and i am honestly starting to love my bff... so there is hope 4 u!  (hey JJ, thats not u is it...?!) lol

omg i just realised u have the same initials as my bff...

but he's not u, b/c my bezzie is across the room... lol

Answer 2

Hug her 1 more min. and ask her.

Answer 3

I don't know what to say to this, see my best friend is a guy and he hooked me up with a guy that i really like and i know my best friend likes me. and i avoid the subject because i dont like him. i really care about him, but i dont want to change our relationship because hes the only trustyworthy friend i have and i am horrified of ruining it..

Answer 4

Oh boy--this i so typical--first girls rarely--if ever make their guy best friends their boyfriends--why--first because they are too young to realize guys who can be their best friend is a good catch--secondly because we as girls are never attracted to our friends--they are our friends--so my advice is to stop being her best friend--back off a little at a time until you are just her friend and then when the timing is right--ask her out on a date--get yourself out of this being a girls best friend in hopes of having her as a girlfriend some day--this is the hard part--get some help on changing the things you do with girls where they make you their best friend instead of seeing you as a potential boyfriend-there is something to be listened to in the old saying "nice guys finish last"  it doesn't mean you shouldn't be a nice guy--it means don't become the kind of guy or don't stay the kind of guy that becomes girls best friend--become the guy who becomes the guy the girls want as a boyfriend--it is all up to you!

Answer 5

I was in the exact same situation.  I grew up with this girl, we knew everything about each other, and were open to telling each other absolutely anything.  The one thing I can guarantee is that if you do take this to the next level and it doesn't work out, things will NOT be the same again.  My advice is, if you genuinely care about this person and do not want to loose the relationship you have with her now, then do not pursue her.  If you are willing to risk your current relationship in hopes to be with her, then tell her how you feel and see if she is willing to give it a go.  Given what you said about this other guy, she may not respond favorably to you. The choice is yours however...

Answer 6

Hard to tell. Lets hope that you get what you want.

Answer 7

wow your so lucky, its very easy, just tell her

"____ , i have to tell you something. I love you, and not as a friend."then, you lean in a kiss her just make sure its a private place for you and her

cuz you might not know, she might just feel the same about you and is thinking the same thing, not knowing wat to do. you just have to make the first move

Answer 8

this same thing happened with me and my best friend. but he liked me and i was just too close to him to feel anything like that. but we did talk about it, he asked me how i felt about him and he said that he was starting to like me but i just had to tell him we were too close. maybe you should just sit her down and ask her..if you guys are that close you should be able to talk about anything you feel

good luck :]

Answer 9

Tell her how you feel, thats the only thing that you can really do.

Answer 10

god i wish i was her! anyway, theres nothing you can really do.  You have to wait untill her current relationship is over and then make your move.  

Answer 11

It wouldn't be only about ruining her current relationship, but ruining your friendship with her. Chances are if you guys did date it would ruin everything you have with her now. I know it's hard, but just think you'd rather keep her in your life as a best friend than nothing at all. My best friend and I have always had feelings for each other but have always agreed not to go into a relationship. We couldn't afford to loose each other and we had to face it that someday, if we did date, we had to face that it wouldn't last forever and somewhere along the line mess up our friendship.