I really love my husband but when we have s*x I don't reach the big "O" what does this mean?

Question

I really Love him but he has never made me have the big "O" what can I do? I don't think I ever had one. How can you tell?

Answer 1

How often have you faked it. When a woman fakes it, she may think that she is doing good for him, but she is inadvertantly letting him think that this is all he has to do to make her sexually satisfied and he will think that (doesn't take much/long to please her sexually) every time that he has s*x with her.....

Answer 2

Like everyone else said, you know when you have one. My two girlfriends haven't had one either and both have children. Try different positions. Try having him give you oral while fingering you or using  toy. Also when you're on top that works because you get to do the moving. When you two are in sitting positions is a good one too, straddle him and go for it. If you still don't get one, try laying flat on your back with a pillow on your butt. It's a perfect angle.  

Answer 3

You will know when you do. And either he has not idea what he's doing OR you are not telling him what you need.

Get a book, let it tell YOU what to expect, try some self pleasuring techniques so you make your self o****m then tell that DOLT husband of yours to duplicate what you figured out. Some positions are more conducive to a female o****m than others. Get Dr. Comforts book the joy of s*x or the Karma Sutra and mimic what you see there.

Answer 4

I think its something you both have to work for! Alot of it is mental and you have the most important already taken care of, you love him. Now go and get some material, an erotic story, or pictures or print an article about how to reach orgasim, or get a dvd, or vibrator anything. Read it together.  Or experiement on your own.

You will soon know what feels good to you and when it feels REALLY REALLY good then remember that feeling and how good it is and u will be able to reach it next time too! Orgasms dont have to be during intercourse, during foreplay is a perfect time!

ITs not ur fault u dont have the same s*x drive that he does or whatever, just tell him you want to feel special for once and he probably has his own ideas of what to do but is just waiting for you to ask! so goooooooooo and unleash the dragon!  

Answer 5

It took me quite a few frustrated years to finally take control and make sure i get the big O. Toys, helping him put his fingers in the right place and doing it myself while we are going at it. If your hubby is secure he will be ok with all this. Try masturbating and once you've had one you wont go back to s*x without it. I wont star fish it (just lay there spread eagled and take it). Some women need more stimulation and not all women O from penetration alone (I dont - I need C**t stimulation). If he loves you he will be Ok- maybe a bit embarassed initially but once he sees a change in how involved you get and he's gonna love it.

Answer 6

Aww that's a shame! You know the reason that your probably bt orgasming is because your not getting enough "friction" on your clitoris. I find for me the only way that I climax is if I'm on top. And trust me, if you have had an o****m before, you would know it! But don't worry, this isn't uncommon. I have a friend who had been married and had 2 kids to her then husband and had never orgasmed. But she divorced him and remarried and she gets off everytime with her new husband! You will probably find that if you experiment with different positions (like woman on top) when your clitoris is being stimulated you will fine :) Good luck!

Answer 7

Tell your husband what you said here.  Then ask him to perform oral s*x on you.  Start with that and you will.

Answer 8

It is wayyyyy harder for a woman to achieve o****m than a man.  If you have never materbated try that and then just ask your husband to try the same thing but you need to be willing to open yourself up to achieving too.  GL

Answer 9

Talk to him about it, try different things, different positions ect. Trust me you'll know if you do....you'll definitely know!

Answer 10

Talk with him about it, try different postions.

Answer 11

It means you're normal.

Life isn't like in the movies. That's just acting. Sorry.  

Answer 12

Love has nothing to do with orgasms and you have to have an understanding of your own body for this. It is not up to your husband to give you the big "O" if he doesn't know how, which he couldn't possibly since you don't. I suggest you find out what "does it" for you and then talk to your husband about it. Good luck.

PS I tell my husband EXACTLY what I want and he loves hearing it. Otherwise, I take control myself. He loves that too. It's a win-win situation!  

Answer 13

you know youve reached the big O because the feeling is unexplainable and often at the end of it you just want to collaspe and fall asleep. you and you hubby needs to explore more with each other, change up your positions, go to "lovers lane" for toys, gels, creams, etc.  dont get discouraged, if you love each other it will happen because when your in love you want to please each other.

Answer 14

Most women cannot climax from penetration.  They make really cool vibes made for use during penetration that have long handles and the end is angled and flat so that theyre easy to use without having to reach really far or be uncomfortable to use. Just something to look into.  

Answer 15

trust me you will know! but if you have never had one he isn't hitting the right spots talk with him have him focus on your pleasure points it'll happen

Answer 16

If you don't know, then you've never had one. Tell him you have never had an o****m and make him work for it.

Answer 17

To be honest, when i o****m its because im the one thats been doing the work lol! Not bacuase my partners bad in bed (he definatly isnt) but just because i no what will make me o****m and its only when for example i grind the right way lol!!

Its only because i no what i like and thats the only way i o****m. You have to figure out ways you like.

And when you do o****m you will definatly know!lol

Oh and you answerd my question yesterday about how early you can take a blood test for pregnancy. Im so sure im pregnant i have most symptoms. Its been around 2 weeks since i had unprotected s*x lots, had blood test yesterday and it said im not preg! Should i wait and test again?or was that it...