I really need help (Asperger Syndrome)?

Question

I am sick of being lonely and isolated. I have Asperger Syndrome and really want to make friends but no one likes me. Tonight I went to the bar and got accused of being homosexual. I am not anti-homosexual, but why cant people just see me for who I am?

Answer 1

For people to show you respect, you have to respect yorself, and show confidence. If your down in yourself, people sense that and keep away, or make you feel worse,  purely because they know it affects you. show confidnce, and people will respect you.

Good luck!, and hold your head up high!

Answer 2

there was a girl on americas top model (Heather Kuzmich) and a guy on mtv made or true life who has what you have. you should look them up.  

Answer 3

I understand where you are coming from.  Being frequently misunderstood is so frustrating, and I don't have solutions for that.  I get a lot of thumbs down answers on here and ask for why such harsh feedback and hardly ever get a response, but I keep asking.  Sometimes, I think the turn off is the hypergraphia, but I don't feel like I get my point across with small answers, and by the e-mail I receive (or hate mail) I get I am still not getting my point across.   I do get half of my mail, about 2x/month from people corresponding out of curiosity, they find me interesting, or for my expertise in a particular area.  I have been unable to sustain correspondance on yahoo with anyone though.  I always email back promptly, and the other end stops the correspondance.

I have found it is easier to make friends with people that are not in your peer group, if that makes sense.  I have 3 friends and a husband, and have had them for 2-3 years.  Two are 15 years my senior.  Both understand ASD's.  One, an OT, specializing in sensory integration autistic kids, the other has multiple Ph. D's from Ivy league schools and 2 spectrum kids, and an Aspie husband.  We are friends because of my PDD son is friends with hers.  My other friend is a sped teacher, with an ASD nephew, she is 10 yrs my junior.  My husband I found at a mental health hospital, we were both employees.  There are a lot of unusual people working there.

I suggest try posting this question in a few areas.  I have not found the mental health arena to be that saavy on ASD's.  Try parenting, and special ed, though even in those areas you won't always find the sensitivity you would expect.

Places I have found that have lots of ASD people are gaming people D&D, the masquerade etc, social skills classes, autism conferences, autism society meetings, anybody involved in disability awareness, training etc., people doing role plays, Star Wars conventions, train shows, coin collector shows, Doctor Who conventions, Star trek conventions, mensa member meetings, laser light shows, the planetarium, museums, computer people, autism society meetings etc.  Many people in the performing arts are more open to people with differences.