I really need some advice and help on this situation, please at least read and try to answer. Please.?

Question

Basically I have a situation on my hands, and it's making me really nervous and I'm actually pretty scared. So anyhow...

Three years ago my family and I moved to a new town. It was the first time my brothers and I would live in a new town and start a new school with new people. Me and my one brother went to a school, but after the first year we both refused to go back, I had trouble making friends and wanted a change. And my brother just hated it. So my mom sent my brother (and my other brother in a different school, that he hated) to a different school in are town, from a different school division. I also changed to the school division but I couldn't go to the same school because it's a year behind me. (They build another grade to the school every year. Example: They are building on Grade Nine right now and I'm going into Grade Ten.) So my brothers (who are younger) can go there till the graduate. But I went to a school in the country, I got up really early, got home late and was always tired and my body and grades got the bad end of the deal. I went to the school in the country for the last two years (Grade Eight and Nine) and it only goes up to Grade Nine. So now I have to find a high school, and I'm going to the one in my town, back to the first division. I'm going back to school with people from Grade Seven. And most of the people from Grade Eight and Nine that I like are not. So, basically, I'm really scared. I mean, I know that people change, and that there might be new students. But I don't know what to do. I still live in the same house I always have since I moved here. And I see the people around town (although I normally hide or avoid them). I'm really shy, and I get really nervous. Nothing bad happened in Grade Seven, I just had trouble making friends and I always felt alone. I just felt like I didn't fit in. I don't know what to do, I've been dreading this day (September 2) for a long time. I don't know who I'm going to seat by or who to talk to on the first day. I've been told to just walk in there like I own the place, walk in and talk to a bunch of people and seat wherever (I'm really shy!) and I've been told to walk in and get everyone to want to be my friend. I just don't know what to do, maybe I'm over analyzing, but I am scared. Please help with any advice you may have.

What do I do?

Where do I sit?

How do I act?

Who do I talk to?

What other advice do you have for me?

THANKS SOOOO MUCH!!

Tamara.

Answer 1

Yes I think you (and myself) are over anylizing the first day of school. Just play it by ear and see how the day goes. If people don't like you for who you are then that's their loss not yours. I am shy too, But just find a balance between anti-social and S****y and you will do great.

A favorite saying of mine is "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Think about that.

Answer 2

dont worry, just be nice to everyone you meet and smile... thats all u have to do to survive.. trust me, u will make friends if u follow this.

Answer 3

My suggestion would to become active in your school's clubs. Find a couple that interest you. You will meet people with similar interests this way, and it will be on a smaller scale than having to think about dealing with the whole school. It is perfect if you are shy. You can kind of sit off while warming up to the people so you don't have to approach anyone. People will see that you are shy and come up to you to say hi and make friends.

Also if you like sports, join a team. Its instant friends that way. You can be quite at first because every freshman is nervous at tryouts. And you bond with the other girls once you get placed on the team.

Good luck.  

Answer 4

Get to know where your classes are so you can find them quickly and easily.  That way you can be one of the first people in the classroom.  Sit where ever you feel most comfortable (front or back), the teacher may move you anyways into alphabetical order or some kind of assigned seat.  Just be yourself, and make small talk to the people around you.  Remember a lot of people are in the same boat as you, I mean a lot of people change during the summer, and it is like starting all over for everyone, plus there may be other new people.  Don't worry about being "cool" or having "cool" friends, just look for nice, interesting people.  Those are the kind of friends you want anyways.