I really need some advice anyone please

Question

i went to visit my cousin last weekend in the hospital he was badly injured so i didnt go in the room to see him but now i get the news that he died. im kind of mad at myself for not seeing him im just really sad about it the reason i didnt go in the room is because hospitals scare me any advice thanks

Answer 1

Don't feel responsible that you didn't get to see him.  It wasn't your fault.  Sorry for the loss.

Answer 2

dont be so hard on yourself, theres no explanation for the phobias that we have..

almost each and every one of us is scared of something and if you and your cousin  were close, then he will understand.

sorry about your loss but dont beat yourself up over it.

Answer 3

aw, sweetie i know you are probably going threw a hard time.

but even if you didn't see your cousin when he was in the hospital..

just remember he loves you..

don't get mad about that situation but its okay to feel that way.

i will suggest talking to family member or anyone close to you.

that should make you feel better.

sorry about your loss.

Answer 4

awe so sad but at his funeral you could tell him youre sorry and that youll never forget him/her

Answer 5

I think that hopitals are a scary place. Maybe subconsiously you may have already known he was going to die. Maybe you didnt want your last glimpse of him being traumatic. He knows that you love him and was there to see him, just because you didnt want to see him in the bed hurting doesnt mean  you didnt care. All that matters was that you were at the hospital. Dont beat your self up for it.

Answer 6

build a time machine and go back and see him

Answer 7

I am very sorry for your loss.  When ever you loose a loved one you always will think of how you could do things differently.  In this case you should not think of what you should have done differently because you cannot change that.  I don't know if you believe in religion or higher powers, but even if you don't just know that you can talk to someone after they are gone and they will still hear you.  Don't dwell on the past because you cannot change it.  You also can't predict the future, but do all that you can to work with the present time and what you can do to keep yourself feeling good.  Great idea to look for help here because you can get all different perspectives.  Good luck and again, sorry for your loss.  

Answer 8

It's not your fault. You went to the hospital and that is the first step. You may want to see a counselor to help you out will futures endeavers

Answer 9

Of course you are sad, it is normal. But do you think he cares now??? No offense but no matter where anyone's beliefs put him he is certainly not worrying about you, but instead he is hoping you will stop being sad and live your life the best you can to honor his memory

Answer 10

there isnt much you can really do to make yourself feel better unless you try talking with friends and family. yeah i know it probably doesnt seem too appealing, but i had the same thing happen to me, and i was upset and miserable, feeling really bad, and after talking to someone i felt much better juts knowing that he knew i love him and that was what counted. keep your spirits up, and distract yourself. he knew you cared about him, and just because you didnt go in, didnt make him think you didnt.

Answer 11

There isn't any time travel that could ease your suffering, but talking things out with someone that is close to you might make you feel better. Do something in the spirit of your cousin. This will remind you of how he lived his life, not his death. I am sorry for your loss.