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Question

Is she lying about us?

First off, I 'm an American white girl from a family of proud Scotch-Irish all the way back. I have a French cousin, by marriage.

I was talking to my cousin, about me going to France to visit her, she told me that I better be careful because the men will be LITTERALLY chasing after me, and that I cannot go anywhere with out her. At first I was flattered, because of my all American blonde haired blue eyed beauty. Then I found out that that was an insult. Because the men saw American girls as total easy hoes, who will get it on in 20 minutes!

I'm white I've seen tv and the black, mexican, puerto rican girls are the hoes. But she said that she was talking bout American white girls. She said we were seen as fair game and said "I'm not judging you Blondie, but you American white girls have a S****y reputation. You all have s*x as casual as shaking hands with strangers."

And she told me alot of Europeans, Middle East, South AMericans, Indians, Jamaicans and South Africans see us as "pieces of EZ meat."

And she said if I do come to France to see her, not to act like a typical "white girl" all "loud, S****y, and American."

I wanted to cry when I got off the phone with her.

Should I really go to FRANCE to see my cousin? She is lying right?

Answer 1

The socialization process is different there. It's ok to have s*x in a relationship there, whereas here we're told not to at all but end up changing partners more often.  

Many people in the world only have our media and TV shows to judge us by.  They see shows where a woman has 7 partners in a 5 season run, well.....you can figure that one out.

And yes, many Europeans think Americans are loud. We tend to be easy to meet and hard to know, whereas they tend to be hard to meet and easy to know.

You should absolutely go to France and have the experience. Just be aware that your behavior may mean something different in another country than it does here and you'll be fine.

Answer 2

it's the crowd she runs with .her crowd is disrespectful to people in general and women particularly. either rich a$$ homes or poor pissed off wanna bees .i would not judge a whole country full of people because of  hear say.you have probably encountered men here that could be nicer or you even felt fear of ,it's the same everywhere ,but it's not everybody,just watch out who you run with...........tom

Answer 3

I'm from the UK and now live in Spain, and it does seem that British women, regardless of how attractive they are or whether they are, are an easy target and are willing to sleep with anyone.  I can't tell you how many times old ugly men have thought they were in with a chance.

Just be on your guard - after all the most contact most europeans have had with Americans is watching films and TV.

Answer 4

mexican girls??? excuse me? i am white and my wife is mexican. i suggest you do a little research before you state fallacies such as those.  

Answer 5

s*x and the City is all over the world, honey.

Answer 6

Funny, I thought I heard it was the other way around.

As an American you'll be exotirc and people will assume you'll match the stereotype of what people think Americans are. Your dress, language, and manners will all make you stand out.

You will be approched by people who will wonder if what they see in the media is really what Americans are really like. Some will be slobs out for what they can get. Others will be courious and interested in you as a person. It takes all kinds.

Funny story. While we were living in Korea we took a vacation to Hong Kong. On the tour bus the staff got a kick out of my fractured Chinese but also enjoyed the fact I was trying. Then two Americans came on board. Loud, demanding and not dealing well with Chinese accents. Worse of all they grabbed on to us as "We Yanks have to stick together." Then the staff pretty much lost their English skills. The couple was oblvious to the impression they were making and made no attempt to understand they were in China, not the US.

Answer 7

What I think is your cousin isn't that excited about your possible trip.  If you do go, make sure you read up on French customs, traditions, etc. to be as poised as possible.  Let me ask: do you believe 'yer cuz' was trying to protect or diss you?  

Answer 8

I fear your cousin is correct.  No one ever went broke underestimating the intelligence of the American people.

If you need proof check which candidate won the presidential election in 2004.  The world recognizes ignorance.

Answer 9

I am a farmer, on a small permaculture farm.  I live here in the U.S.A.  I raise meat goats.  All of my customers are from different countries.  About 30 different countries, via our local University.

I'm telling you all of that, so you realize how many different people, from different races, colors, cultures and religions I deal with.

Hate to tell you this, but yes, for the most part, American girls are viewed as easy to bed, loud, spoiled, stupid, and a bunch of other negative views by many men, from many cultures.

A great deal of that has to do with the fact that American TV, and American movies are shown all over the world.  People in other countries are completely developing a veiw of American women based on the media.  Many of them had never met an American until they came to this country to be students.

I'm in my 40's.  I've had some of my young men customers (in their 20's) complain to me about American women.  "Where are these women we see in the movies?"  "Why do these girls not come home with us like in the movies?"  "Why can I not get American girl to be my girlfriend?"  

Ever have to explain to a young man from another country, it's because he's probably coming off as a borish pig, and American girls are completely turned off by him?  ~lol~

I don't know if you are old enough to have ever seen the movie "American Beauty" but a lot of foreign guys expect American girls to act like that.  Or they expect them to act like a ditz from "Legaly Blonde."

Don't be mad at your cousin.  She's actually trying to give you very good advice, even if she is possibly not being terribly tactful about it.

Go to France, stick with her.  Be polite, and quiet.  Americans are often very loud in foreign countries and it rubs people the wrong way.  

Be aware in other countries they often treat women very differently than in American.  In some foriegn countries, ALL of the men treat women like they do here walking past construction sites.  Wolf whistles, rude comments, invitation to bed them, and sometimes even groping.

Go to France.  Stick with your cousin, and learn from her.  She completely understands the people, culture and customs of the country she lives in.  Take LOTS of pictures.  Have a good time.  Don't sleep with anyone...remember ALL of the men are going to have s**y French accents.

Also think about Natalee Holloway.  She was blonde, blue eyed, got drunk in a cassino, was loud, allowed herself to be picked up by a guy she'd just met.....it was completely what those young men expected of an American girl.  They had zero respect for someone they concidered to be easy.  She ended up murdered.

Go to France....and show them what a classy blonde American girl is REALLY like.

~Garnet

Permaculture homesteading/farming over 20 years