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i don't have any confidence what so ever. For some reason in school I don't talk to my friends and I'm not myself. But out of school I am myself. I am always shy when I order stuff at restaurants. I want to find myself as pretty, confident and just myself. I am 13 and people say this usually happens when you are a teenager.

Answer 1

u know your problems , so, i think answer is also with you,but it is hidden , give search command to u r brain to find out the answers.

Answer 2

I was the same way. I grew out of it. hey you know what really helped me not be shy ne more!!! I worked as a waitress for two years and was forced to talk to strangers everyday. i know it sounds dumb but it really worked for me. Now i work in customer service and am great at my job. you should try it or just come out of your comfort zone and say hi to people you would never say hi to.Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi there Brenda, I have a website which is all about confidence and how to build it, you might find it useful, if nit there are some good links there.

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

Good luck

Answer 4

same was with me just get along it you will adjust

Answer 5

It's said that this is what happens during your teenage years because this is the time where you really begin to discovering who it is you are. This is the time where you're going to determine the identity that you wish to embody. I don't think that it is confidence, it sounds like uncertainty based on indecision. Speak up, let your voice be heard... there's nothing wrong with expressing yourself. Give it a shot... The more people do things, the easier it becomes.  

Answer 6

Some people are just not as outgoing. There is nothing wrong with you, and you will most likely change when you get older, anyway.

Just enjoy yourself as you go through these years, and if you don't enjoy them, just keep in mind that it will soon be over, and you will be with people who will appreciate you for who you are, not what you wear.

Answer 7

I was like that for a long time.  Going to college was really stressful because of this.  But now I'm about to graduate and I'm confident, happy and myself!  

Don't worry, you will learn more about who you are and gain confidence as you get older.  Just remember that people respect confidence so just be yourself and don't worry what people think.  Don't let anyone talk you into doing things that are not "you".  Take time to think about who you are as well.  Learning who you are is a harder task than most realize.

Life does get better after high school...lol!

Answer 8

i hate to say this but it's all part of growing up, it takes a while to find yourself and figure out who you are and what you want, you are very young, so just enjoy being a teenager.  

Answer 9

I had a severe inferiority complex at this age too.

Just keep going.  Give yourself time!!!!!

You're okay!

Answer 10

Just except yourself the way you are and do not allow ANYONE  to walk over you. Decide what you want out of life and go for it!Quote: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent". We are all equal, no matter what anybody says..

Answer 11

happened to me try having fun and getting along with everybody

Answer 12

So you're at a point in life where you're becoming more aware of yourself, and becoming more critical of yourself.  You have to find the strength within yourself to accept yourself, and to find out how to accomplish the changes you would like to make.  This is not the time to be isolating yourself, as this will carry over into adulthood for you.  Be strong and push yourself to be more social and happy.  You decide to be unhappy and isolated, change your beliefs about yourself and make what you want to happen HAPPEN!

Answer 13

Yes. It is normal for a thirteen year-old girl. But if you would like to improve with time, practice being more confident. When you talk and interact with people, be more assertive. Ask yourself, in a situation where you're morally stuck, "Am I doing the right thing?" If you believe in your heart that you are doing the right thing, be happy and be strong.

Also, I remember when I was 13, I would be always conscious of what others were constantly thinking. I would also care WAY too much about the cloths I wore, the words I chose when I spoke, and the latest gadgets... don't... please don't concern yourself with those things. Life is beautiful and is about much more than materials, and the more you grow, the less you will care about those things.

Have confidence because you are a good person and don't need materials or opinions to define yourself... just be you, and enjoy your life!